We would like to think that the people in our lives are happy, healthy, well adjusted individuals. However, we sometimes realize that it isn't so. We all have bad moments; I will be skipping through my day, being happy, thinking positive, and there is always that someone that will blindside you, they try to knock the happy wind out of your sails. Sometimes you can shrug it off sometimes it's a little harder.
If you are a positive person and you get around someone that is negative it can bring you down. If you are an independent person and you are in control of your own life, there are people that can make you regress into a state of childhood. Sometimes people have a tremendously negative impact on our lives. We all have our issues but there are people that are just toxic, they suck the life out of you and they can even shorten your life span. Here are a few:
Manipulative Mary- masters at manipulation, in fact you may not even realize that you are being manipulated until it is too late. These people want to push your buttons, they figure out what they are and push them. They are toxic because they have a way of eating away at your belief system and self esteem. They attempt to find ways to make you do things that you would not normally do and they cause you to lose your self identity, your personal priorities. They will also cause you to see the reality of the situation. The world is centered around their needs and their own priorities and you are not one of them, they could care less about you as a human being.
Narcissistic Nancy- Narcissistic people have an extreme sense of self importance, they think the world revolves around them. They are sometimes not as sly as Manipulative Mary, but they always attempt to get their needs met. You find yourself always saying, “it isn't always about you”. They are toxic because they are only focused on their own needs, leaving your needs in the dirt. You are constantly left disappointed and unfulfilled. They zap your energy by getting you to focus so much on them, that you have nothing left for yourself. It's draining.
Debbie Downers- They never appreciate the positive in life. These people take the joy out of everything. If you are positive and you have a rosy outlook on life they will constantly squash it with negativity. Their negativity consumes you and you start seeing things with gray colored glasses yourself.
Judgmental Jims- You see things as cute and quirky, they see it as strange and unattractive. If you find people unique and refreshing, they find them “wrong”. If you like someone's taste they find it disturbing or bad. Judgmental people are like Debbie Downers and if you stay around them they can convert you into a Judgmental Jim.
Dream Killing Keiths- If you have an idea, these people are always there to tell you can't do it. As soon as you achieve your goal, they try to drag you back down. As you dream they are the first to tell you its impossible. These people are stuck in what is instead of what could be. They eat away at your self esteem and your belief in yourself. Progress and change can only be achieved by reaching for the stars, dreaming the impossible and doing new things.
Insincere Illissas- These people are never sincere, you tell a funny story, they give a laugh. You get superficial responses from there, as in “there, there”. They are ho-hum. These people build superficial relationships. They are shallow and meaningless. When you need a friend, they are never there. They lie. These people will actually set you up for failure.
Disrespectful Dannys- These people say and do inappropriate things in inappropriate ways. Essentially, they are grown up bullies. These people have no sense of boundaries and do not respect your feelings. They will cause you to feel frustrated and disrespected.
Never Enough Nellies- You can never give these people enough to make them happy. The truth is that we can not make other people happy. Happiness comes from inside each of us. These people take you for granted and have unrealistic expectations of you. They find ways to continually blame you and they never take responsibility for anything themselves. You will spend so much time attempting to please them that you will end up losing yourself in the process. It's like dealing with a narcissist, a narcissist will consume you. They will require all of your time and attention, and energy, leaving you so worn out your own needs get sacrificed.
All of these personalities have things in common. The more people get away with their behavior, the more they will continue. These people do not see that what they do is wrong, talking to them about it falls on deaf ears. These people also get worse with age, so their impact on you is stronger with time.
Life is too short to spend it dealing with toxic people. If you remove yourself from these people you will be a lot happier.