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Avoiding the busybody mom in relationships: RHOA's Joyce on 'The View'

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If there was a smidgeon of a belief left that maybe Kandi Burruss' mother Joyce "Mama Joyce" Jones was acting out for the cameras on reality show "Real Housewives of Atlanta," the interview she conducted on "The View" on Thurs., Feb. 20, confirmed this is really her personality. Even talk show host/comedian Whoopi Goldberg tried to give her advice against ruining the relationship of her daughter and fiance Todd Tucker.

"You and I are minutes apart in terms of age," said Whoopi to Joyce. "We don't have time for this mess. Let her make the mistake if she's gone make the mistake. You've got to let her do it."

The rest of the interview was the usual: Todd proved once again how freelancing works and that he does have stable income in his career. Kandi cried in front of her mother and explained for the millionth time about how much her mother was hurting her. And Joyce found new, bizarre reasons to not like Todd.

While Goldberg did suggest that maybe Joyce was so overprotective because Kandi may have made earlier mistakes in a previous relationship, the bigger issue is that Todd appears to have made no mistakes. And since he isn't giving Joyce ammunition, she's making up reasons to not like Todd as she goes along. First Joyce felt that the two of them shouldn't be together because gossip talk show host Wendy Williams called him an "opportunist" without knowing either Kandi or Todd. Then the issue was the size of Todd's head. Then it was the fact that too many photos of Todd were at Kandi's home but not enough of Joyce. Then there were random rumors being spread by Joyce's friend about whether Todd and Kandi's childhood friend/assistant Carmen were sleeping together.

And the arguments weren't just verbal. In addition to Joyce calling Carmen an "old low-down heifer" on her voicemail for confronting her friend about the rumors, Joyce tried to throw a shoe at Carmen during a bridal dress fitting.

Joyce has single-handedly made herself the most cringeworthy and meddlesome mother on television, minus De'Londa Brice from "The Wire." Even other reality TV moms haven't trended this much on Twitter.

Nancy Jones of "Love & Hip-Hop New York" and "Chrissy & Mr. Jones" eventually mended fences after Chrissy and Nancy's son/rapper Jim Jones both put their feet down. Deborah "Momma Dee" Bryant, mother of rapper Scrappy, never quite made up with the mother of Scrappy's child Erica on "Love & Hip-Hop Atlanta," but both of them did make an attempt -- just never at the same time. However, Scrappy did have a heart-to-heart with his mother and also put his foot down about the way Erica had been treated.

Other reality mothers only poked their noses in their children's relationships when they were put in the middle. Fay Southerland would try to win over Tahiry with smiles, compliments and affection during the worst battles between she and rapper Joe Budden on "Love & Hip-Hop New York." Chandrea Nicholls, mother of producer Rich Dollaz, played the background unless her son or his on-again, off-again girlfriend Erica Mena contacted her.

But even on their worst days, none of the reality TV moms ever sunk so low as to try to pay someone to set up the significant other of their child. According to Carmen, Joyce was willing to pay someone to take photos of Todd at an outing to make it seem like he was flirting with other women. And once again, all Kandi did was cry and talk about how her mother would never leave her after Todd told her it was a possibility should Joyce's antics get any worse.

What Kandi doesn't seem to realize is that Joyce of course will not leave her. She'll just make it a point for Kandi to be left by everyone else, friends and boyfriends included. And the only person who will ever make Joyce either stop the stunts or mind her business is her own daughter, who continues to do nothing but appease this child-like behavior.

Seeing TV star moms like Phylicia Rashad on Mon., Feb. 17, episode of "The Queen Latifah Show" made viewers long for the days when TV moms showed some class but still managed to be entertaining. Claire Huxtables appear to be a dying breed -- on TV anyway.

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