Photograph by; Michael Schuessler 'Play Time'
Hi, Michael,
I’m hoping you can help settle this dispute, that has been going on with my wife and me for some time. She wants to buy a toy, but the way I see it, I’m all she really needs. Why have a vibrator when you've got the real thing?
-Billy M.-
Denver, Colorado
Billy,
Lets see if I can shed some light your way… First of all I think you need to relax, take a breath, and maybe look at things a little differently than you presently are at this time.
I think it’s great that your wife is secure enough in the relationship to bring up the fact that she may want some added stimulation, a sure sign that she cares about you and the relationship.
She is not telling you that you are inadequate, she is telling you that she wants to expand and explore different areas of the sexual experience. This in the end will lead to a more powerful and passionate lovemaking experience between you both.
Think of it this way also; it’s only an object and it does not have a pulse, so you are way ahead of the game by going ahead and letting her expand this side of her sexuality. Also having a vibrator, will allow you to explore different areas of her body while she stimulates herself.
Go on a quest… Try to release her G-spot, I find that If I’m stimulating my lovers G-Spot and she, at the time stimulates her clitoris with a vibrator she will release much quicker... a definite aide in the pleasure department. In the end it all comes back around 10 fold, I promise you!
Since you are first timers visit an online outlet and experience the whole thing in the privacy of your own home, I like Muffys Erotic Toys as an online outlet, they will treat you with respect and gently steer you exactly where you need to be. Then it’s just a matter of having fun; view it as a type of foreplay select your toys together this way it will add even more excitement to the process and it will also show your lover that you too care and are willing to try new things.
In All-Ways remember the first step is communication, talking about your wants and needs with your partner, the rest is fun and can be so much more powerful! Erotic and sensuous sexuality as you have never experienced it before!
Smiles,
-Michael Schuessler-
“Changing The World One Orgasm ~ At A Time”™
Michael Schuessler, author of the sex and sensuality classic, ‘The Holy G-rail', Please visit his web site, www.theholyg-rail.com to see all the different forms of Michaels works of creativity.
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Comments
Great advice, Michael! Sex toys and other props -- check out my recent review of the Liberator Bedroom Adventure Gear -- are great fun for couples looking to add some spice and variety to their sex lives together. While your girl might have some fun on her own with her new toys, she'll love them even more if you embrace them and play with them together. They're called TOYS after all, and many of them are for sharing! Most guys find that the use of toys helps both them and their partners learn more about what is possible and how to achieve it! Have fun! Love, Sarah tinyurl.com/sexaminer
Michael, As usual..You are right on time..You captivate your Audience with ease..The use of Vibrators does bring a passionate&sensual partner..if you will.. as it aids in sexual foreplay&satisfaction...my husband Henry&I just started using some..we have 2 that are for G-spot stimulation..i was always afraid of that stuff..But now..I really enjoy using them..Toys are beneficial&fun! If used properly...We are still experimenting but w/good results..Plus we have your book=The Holy G-rail which has helped us tremendously..Michael... You are "awesome"! Tyvm for sharing!
Why wouldn't a man want his woman to experience more pleasure? Since many women can't masturbate with their hands alone, a vibrator is an essential tool for self pleasuring. So this man who wrote in should imagine what it would be like to never touch himself again, and then imagine what it's like for his wife.
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