Meg,
Is it rude to bolt after 10 minutes of an internet date?
Here is my story.
This new guy (who I met online dating) entered the door at the establishment we agreed on. To put it bluntly, he was fat. Not at all like his picture. And not for one minute did take a breath to stop bragging, boasting and telling me what a catch he is!
He ordered the largest deep fried platter on the menu and continued to drool over it for over an hour. This was shocking because in his profile he wrote about how he loves living a healthy lifestyle, being active, hiking and riding bike. I excused myself for the third time to the ladies room, just for a short break and to figure out an escape plan. I returned and while the eating frenzy was still on, I stood up, pulled some cash out of my purse for my salad, slapped it on the table, and took to higher ground. Looking back, I feel a little rude. Should I have just left right away or stuck it out?
-Cash & Dash
Dear C&D,
Was how you acted rude? Well, not if you’re going by Nancy Grace’s standards. But, seriously I think we both know it was rude; however I don’t think that’s the real issue. What’s really going on here and what you’re really upset about, and rightfully so, is that this man misrepresented himself. When people submit themselves to the world of online dating they make themselves vulnerable. You trusted that the picture he posted was an accurate image of what he looked like and you fully believed his profile.
He took advantage of your vulnerability. That bastard. But, at the same time you need to protect yourself in these situations, by not getting your hopes up. Sort of like online shopping. Whenever I order a pair of shoes online, I don’t get too excited because in the back of my mind I know there’s the possibility they may not fit – for whatever reason – and I may have to go through the hassle of sending them back and looking for a new pair somewhere else. But, hell at least now I know.
So yeah, next time you don’t feel that spark, make a less dramatic exit much earlier. But, hey at least you were nice enough to leave pay for your dinner!
Meg
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