Meg:
Via an internet dating site, a new guy and I have been messaging each and are trying to set up a place to meet. He was persistent about us golfing or mountain biking since we have that in common. The weather has been extremely hot! I told him it is too hot for me and he replied that he just “sucks it up.” I told him I’ve been there, done that, so I suggested meeting over a drink instead. He replied, "Only if you promise me you can still wear a two-piece, LOL."
Now in my profile there is a full body picture of me (all 115 lbs). What about that would not fit into a "two-piece"?
I have not responded to his message.
What's up with his message? Is it just playful and innocent or did he play a small part in the movie "Sleeping With The Enemy”?
-Weenie Wants a Bikini
Dear Bikini:
It sounds like he’s trying to be playful, but testing the waters at the same time. I don’t think he was hinting that you couldn’t fit into a two-piece, only stating that he’d like to see you in one. In other words, he was complimenting you – in his own perverse way. What bothers me is that he’s so insistent, even after you told him it’s too hot and you’d rather meet for a drink. Most men love when a woman throws out date suggestions, especially when they involve booze. A man should respect you and cater to you, especially in the beginning stages of dating.
I think you should respond and give him one more chance to prove himself. Just message him something flirty and lighthearted about bars/restaurants having a dress code and see what he says. If his response is along the lines of there being no dress code in his bedroom, run!
Good luck,
Meg
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