Photo from Blanco Primavera collection 2010
In honor of women's history month, it's time to address a wise old tradition that many women still practice and that is:waiting around to be asked out by Mr. charming.
Men ask women out but women—most—don't ask men out. Why is that? When it comes to promotions, fair pay and equal treatment, women have no problem speaking up; however, when it comes to dating, the female race tends to step back to the 1950s where we're more so subordinate as opposed to the focal point.
There are many reasons why women don't make the first move: it's nerve racking, there is a independent--single lady--image projected on women (thank you Beyonce) showing new found power and strength unlike times before us, women enjoy being lusted after and feeling needed especially since we’re so independent now, heaven forbid we look desperate and needy, and the fear of rejection. Cue Psycho theme song.
Thinking about rejection gives anyone heartburn--the non Tum requiring kind--and what’s worse than an answer being No? Well, nothing. Sorry. In that case, you could have herpes and have to wear an eye patch so "no" isn't so bad.
These are all the same things men have to face when asking you out, so why not get on their level of non child bearing pain to seek out the man you really dig? If anything, you can look at it this way: if he says yes, great. If he says no, check him off the list of things to do and move on because there are men everywhere you go in life and chances are, you will find someone attractive at the gas station three hours later making him referred to in the past tense.
More reasons to ask him out? All that thinking about whether or not he likes you is keeping you up at night anyway. Don't you miss sleeping and dreaming? For the sake of dark circle's under your eye's, you owe it to yourself.
Sometimes guys are shy, kind of like you. I know many females who, had they not made the first move, would never be in the long term relationships they are in now because their now boyfriend is shy.
You're young and you have nothing to lose other than your ego for two minutes. It's just two minutes; nothing a York Peppermint Patty can't relieve.
You think he is handsome and are dying to know more. Forget that he's a stranger. What has stopped a stranger from asking you out at bars or when you're out with friends in the past? Nothing.
You're a levelheaded women's rights activist and loving every minute of this month. If you aren't asking men out, then you aren't living up to your title. Get even.
Let March be a month kind of like New Year’s Eve: vow to not live historically for at least 31 days so women can add one more thing to history.
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