As someone who has lived in big cities on the East Coast for many years, what would you say is the biggest problem New Yorkers face in their mentality with dating, and what advice would you provide career minded professionals that are looking to find love?
With a city boasting such a massive population, it’s hard to imagine not being able to find a great partner right? Well ironically New Yorkers are not all that different from Angelenos when it comes to dating —they’re both reluctant to explore the abundance of possibilities each city offers. Despite the huge numbers of potential partners, the larger the city, the more sub-cities you end up with. All of my New York clients talk about how many people there are in the city, and then admit to staying within the confines of their own neighborhood. Many won’t even consider meeting someone in a different part of the city, for fear that they might actually like the person, thus have a transportation issue on their hands.
The bottom line is, the larger the city, the more opportunities there are —and the more advantageous it is to explore them. Who knows if your fabulous date in the West Village already has plans to relocate downtown... you never know. If you want to meet someone special then resist the temptation to be lazy. Get out there and explore more of the possibilities in that incredible city of yours! Venturing out even one day/night a week can make for an awesome encounter you would have missed. My advice… drop the defensive dating around distance and be willing to invest a little more energy into your potential relationship. Besides getting out of your routine once in a while does the mind and body good…!