Are you dating guys with game?

guys with game

As reported on Oprah.com, San Francisco was rated the #5 best city in America to meet single men over 35. San Jose was #1 and Fremont, #6. So why do so many Bay Area women complain about finding and keeping a great guy?

It is because women in the Bay Area want “Guys With Game”. They want a cool, smooth, female magnet who melts her with his quick wit, humors her with his quick tongue, and well… leaves her with his quick exit. Forget Neil Strauss’ book, “The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pick-up Artists”. If Bay Area women want a really great guy, the kind who will love her faithfully and marry her, she should go for the “Guys With No Game”. These guys may have two left feet on the mating dance floor but “Guys With No Game” make great husbands.

Remember, the “Guys With Game” always have game – even when they are married, so expecting them to shed their super powers is like telling Super Man he can no longer fly. The word is “Game,” and by definition a game is a challenge, and a game is fun, and men who are good at it, not only attract the admiration from their peers, and the credibility of their prey, but also the longing from those who they have not yet conquered. So, when you go for the one who swept you off the floor and whisked you away with his charm and smooth moves, you have essentially married a female-netting champion. He is an Olympian with so many gold medal notches on his bedpost, that his face adorns the Kellogg’s box of love. Be very careful what you wish for.

On the other hand, “Guys With No Game” may still want to look at other women, but you can be rest assured that, if given the chance, he will most certainly fail. You’ve seen him in action. You know his muddled moves will drive even the most desperate “cat in heat” away, because you remember when he laid his lines on you. And you know that even if he is tempted, he will come running back to you after the inevitable rebuff, because your love for him has to do with his loyalty, empathy and aspiration, not his game. You love him for all the qualities that do make for a good husband.

Good Man Check List

On a Scale of 1 to 5, rate your guy on the PLEASURE principal

Is he a good provider or is he a financial drain?
____P – Provider 1 2 3 4 5

Can you trust that he will not stray or abandon you emotionally?
____L – Loyal 1 2 3 4 5

Does he care about others’ feelings?
____E – Empathetic 1 2 3 4 5

Does he aspire for improvement, or is he complacent and accepting of mediocre?
____A – Aspiring 1 2 3 4 5

Is he self-less or selfish?
____S – Selfless 1 2 3 4 5

Is he useful or is he a lump on the couch?
____U – Useful 1 2 3 4 5

Is he rational or an irrational hothead?
____R – Rational 1 2 3 4 5

Is he endearing to you or is he unkind and hurtful?
____E – Endearing 1 2 3 4 5

____Total (If your total is less than 24 you may not have a “Good Man”)

Through case studies as an exclusive matchmaker with Perfect Search, Melinda Maximova identifies a phenomenon that is undermining the success of many relationships. She calls this dynamic, Power Shift. Through the eyes of a matchmaker she helps women avoid several dating pitfalls and relationship syndromes and address questions of controversial topics about the sexes.

Whether you are:

Dating a divorced man
Already married
Single and searching for Mr. Right
An urban cougar
Single mom

You will most likely be navigating the Power Shift.

A dating authority and coach, Melinda Maximova knows what it takes for intelligent, grounded and impressive women to find and keep the man who will love and respect them the way they deserve. She helps women determine who is worth fighting for and how to keep him. She has helped thousands of successful men navigate the dating scene. Now, she will help millions of women negotiate the obstacles they are encountering in their love lives to in order to find the man of their dreams. She will address topics of:

What Makes A Man Run For The Hills
What Men Want
Is He Worth It?
Are You Ready For Mr. Right?
Dating And The Power Shift
Navigating The Power Shift For The Long Haul

Power Shift: Why a Great Catch Can’t Find a Match, addresses topics such as, why men like dating younger women and why men want hot. Power Shift defines the Princess Syndrome, the difference between self-esteem and self-importance, and discusses sex, fidelity and trust. It guides readers through the Good Man Checklist, the PLEASURE Principal, the patterns of MISHAP, and the Seven “F”s For Keeping Your Man. The book illustrates the complicated topics of conflict resolution, marriage ultimatums, and prenuptial agreements, and offers specific tools to help women think like a winner, thereby attracting men who are also winners. Power Shift will help readers navigate and negotiate dating to find their perfect match, and help them determine if they are ready for Mr. Right when they find him. Through humor and matchmaker case studies, Power Shift: Why a Great Catch Can’t Find a Match provides a road map for overcoming the pitfalls of the Power Shift phenomenon to empower women in their 30s and 40s to find intimate love with the powerful man in their life.