Mentally birds of a feather should flock together. People who do not share like minds can only share friendship for a certain length of time. Most of us know that you should be equally yoked with your mate, but are you aware that you should also be equally yoked with your friends?
When you and your friend are not on the same page mentally, how can your friendship last? We’re not talking when a friend is a couple pages behind; we’re talking one or more chapters. Not like they’ll get there soon, but those friends who may never get there or they will take such a long time that it might hinder where you are going. Sure, some friends may be able to play catch up but sometimes they are too far behind to do so. For example, when a person who has missed most of the school year tries to come back they are so lost that they have to start over. They are doomed to repeat that grade all over again meanwhile everyone else has moved on. Are you equally yoked with your friends?
It is challenging to be in friendships with people who are not trying to go where you are trying to go in life. Communication sometimes is lacking because you’re not always able to share the nuances of your journey due to them not understanding where you’re coming from. Not meaning to, sometimes they’ll distract you because they are used to doing those things that you used to do together. The challenge comes when what you are trying to do becomes a personal affront to them and they accuse you of changing.
In order to do better, we must change. The hard part is that now your friend is not changing with you. It’s like two people in one car trying to go in opposite directions, it’s difficult to do. Someone will have to change their direction and go where the other is going or they will eventually split apart.
It bothers you when a friend doesn’t want anything better and is comfortable to stay right where they are in life, but you can’t take it personal. Everyone has their own pace and some never get there but it’s their race to run, not yours.
Sometimes it’s hard to realize that a friend is not where you are. Other times we feel bad and we want to hold on to them until they are but if it’s to your detriment it would be wise to let go. Now, if you’re unsure that it’s detrimental and you think you should keep trying then by all means do so. I’m not stating that you should just give up on your friend but what I am saying is that it’s easier to be around people who want the same things that you do.
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