by Dr. Joe Rubino
We all have a tendency to gravitate toward a version of one of these three moods of anger, sadness or fear that we typically go to during times of stress. Those lacking self esteem also tend to be less emotionally aware and more addicted to their angry, sad, or fearful moods.These familiar emotional reactions are the warning flags telling us that we are interpreting life in a way that does not likely support us.
For most of us, anger is our most prevalent crutch. This anger can range from irritated anger all the way to beyond rage. Anger gives us a temporary feeling of power. We are addicted to being right, controlling others, and will do most anything to avoid being dominated. Anger allows us to dominate others rather than take responsibility for creating an interpretation about what the other person said or did that keeps us in relationship with them.
For many, the anger quickly turns to sadness. ‘Poor me’ is a common interpretation that leads to depression and resignation. We give up our ability to effectively deal with a challenging situation by assuming the status of victim. We feel sorry for ourselves and attract the sympathy of others. As we wallow in our sad state, we forget that we have the ability to be happy anytime we realize that we can if we decide to shift our focus.
For others, fear is their predominant emotional state. People who worry a lot are addicted to this mood. Of course, you can’t blame those who avoid risk and play it ultra-safe if they are afraid. Like the other typical moods, those paralyzed by fear get to avoid responsibility for courageously managing their emotions and acting from their commitments, rather than their emotions.
Powerful personal reinvention involves an instantaneous awareness of our emotional states, knowing that we possess the ability to create a new mood-free interpretation about what others said or did that supports us to maintain our personal effectiveness and proactive action in place of the reactive meanings we apply to events that do not serve us.
Dr. Joe Rubino, CEO of Http://www.CenterForPersonalReinvention.com, is acknowledged as one of the world’s foremost experts on the topic of elevating self-esteem. He is a life-changing personal development and success coach on how to restore self-esteem, achieve business success, maximize joy and fulfillment in life and productivity. He is known for his groundbreaking work as seen on PBS TV in personal and leadership development, building effective teams, enhancing listening and communication skills, life and business coaching and optimal life planning.
His 12 best-selling books and audio programs are available in 23 languages and in 58 countries and include:
• The Self-Esteem Book: The Ultimate Guide to Boost the Most Underrated Ingredient for Success and Happiness in Life.
• The Success Code, Books I & II
• 31 Ways to Champion Children to Develop High Self-Esteem
His highly accalaimed Legends of Light Trilogy consisting of:
• The Magic Lantern: A Fable about Leadership, Excellence, and Personal Empowerment
• The Legend of the Light-Bearers: A Fable about Personal Reinvention and Global Transformation
• The Seven Blessings: A Fable about the Secrets to Living Your Best Life
are currently under development as feature films.
Dr. Joe’s vision is to impact the lives of at least 20 million children and 20 million adults. His Certification Program training coaches in Self-Esteem Elevation is teaching people all over the world the tools to help children and adults develop high self-esteem without the problems associated with excessive ego. http://www.highselfesteemkids.com
Learn more about his life-changing work in championing people to restore their self-esteem at http://www.TheSelfEsteemBook.com and receive FREE the insightful audio program “7 Steps to Soaring Self-Esteem” and a 1 year subscription to “The Success Achievers’ Club”…a $129 Value!