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Awhile back an article was written by a fellow writer titled: “Women have the power to help men become better.” I expected it would offer women advice on how to be supportive of their men, encourage him, and help him reach new heights. However this article was written to advise women as to how to get men to behave better with women. The word better is a substitute for change him into behaving the way she thinks men ought to behave towards women and her in particular. I have yet to come across anyone whose goal was to find a mate to change them. The vast majority of people are looking for someone who will love and accept them for who they are.

The Set up

These types of articles are always suspect to me. Clearly the intent is to get all women on the same page. Initially it states women are more mature, smarter, and basically better than men. In fact according to the article if a woman strives to be (equal) to men she is "lowering herself". The article then takes it a step further and tells women how to behave!

"When women start comparing themselves and their actions to what men are doing, they indeed lower themselves and their vibration to that of a man."

"Stop lowering yourselves to think, act and feel like men."

"Women can perhaps live without men but men cannot truly live without women because men do not have the natural ability to procreate. It has been said in ancient times that women have been able to impregnate themselves just like the scarab beetle in Egypt."

"In women’s desire to become like men, women have lowered themselves and lost their spiritual way instead of leading. You can’t have a man before a woman because a man comes from a woman."

(Ironically if one believes in the bible; God made man before he made woman and she came from man's rib.)

The Agenda

All of the above aforementioned statements seem to be coming from a woman who is "unhappy" with (her dating and relationship life). She (blames other women) for her relationship challenges! Her mindset is of one who believes if all these other women weren't "giving it away" or chasing men then (we) or more importantly (me) would have a better chance of getting a man because they would not have so many options out there.

Instead of her looking at herself as the reason why she does not have what she wants it is someone "out there" to blame. Her solution is get women to change and then men would change. This type of thinking assumes all women want the same lifestyle or same type of men. Some women have no interest in marriage or bearing children but also don't want to live like nuns. Women who don't want marriage or children should not act as if they do just to "level the field" for those women longing for yesteryear.

Its one thing if the opposite gender puts you down such as the case with this article stating that men are lowly creatures. However it's another thing to have to be concerned about what your own gender thinks about you! One of the reasons there remains a double standard for women when it comes to dating and sexual behavior is because there are just as many (women) if not more than men who put her down!

By contrast men tend to ignore what women think about their love lives and they don't put other men down for their dating lifestyle. Suppose women stopped putting each other down?

Freedom & Individuality

Life is a personal journey. In a free society you are entitled to live your life on your own terms. It is wise to be suspect of anyone that tries to convince you to march lockstep as a group simply because you are of the same gender, race, or sexual orientation. Only you know what makes you happy. If you are "unhappy" then you need to make changes or adjustments in your life to have the things you want. If your happiness is dependent upon society changing then you are doomed to unhappiness.

"Your subconscious mind will never allow you to succeed at something you despise."

A woman who believes men are low creatures and in fact are (unneeded) will always have challenges cultivating a healthy relationship with them! Why would she want to be with someone she has no respect for? Your attitude affects your altitude. It's your life. Take the wheel!

One man's opinion!

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