Over the years I have been told by many women that the reason they can't find a relationship or can't keep a relationship is because Men are "intimidated by strong, powerful, successful women". So let's try to figure this out.
When I am told this, I always ask the same question back , "exactly why do you think you intimidate men". The answer varies but usually consists of something like "I make more money and they don't feel manly enough" or "I am more successful so men feel inferior and don't want to date me". Your answer could be anything but what I have found to be the basis of this whole situation is pretty simple.
Men are NOT intimidated by a powerful, successful, strong woman. They do NOT feel inferior because you make more money. The truth usually lies with the woman's behavior. I then ask the women to explain to me how they act when on a date. The answers are astounding, although I try not to judge anyone, the truth is in their behavior. Men want to treat a woman with respect, they want to treat her like a princess and they want to treat you nice, YOU just don't give them the chance to do so.
Let's take a look: Are you a woman who has this issue? Do you feel you intimidate men? Here are some underlying reasons why you feel this way and how you can change things and find that man!
1) When you are asked out on a date, do you tell him that you will meet him at the restaurant or wherever the date is going to be?
2) When your date tries to open the car door or any door, do you rush to open it yourself or don't allow him to open the door?
3) Do you refuse to allow him to pay, do you try to pay for things during the date, dinner, movie tickets, gifts, etc?
4) Do you constantly talk during your date, not really allowing him to say much?
5) Do you talk about your past relationships during the date?
6) When the date is drawing to a close do you rush to get back into your home, or not kiss him goodbye?
7) When he doesn't call you for 3 days after the date, do you call him or just chalk it up to "he was intimidated by me"
Be honest, I know you answered yes to at least one or more of these questions didn't you?
Here is what is REALLY happening. You are taking the masculine role, you are NOT allowing the man to be a man and NO MAN LIKES THAT! It has NOTHING to do with him feeling intimidated at all, but feeling not needed. Yes men need to feel needed too!
Here is what you can do to help change your behavior.
1) Have the man meet you at your home, unless you feel totally afraid of him knowing where you live and if that is the case, you shouldn't be dating him anyway.,
2) ALWAYS and I mean ALWAYS expect (yes expect) the man to open ALL doors for you. If he doesn't do it right away, SIT THERE AND WAIT, he will get the clue. This will also tell him that you are confident in your femininity and demand respect and lady like treatment.
3) ALWAYS allow the man to pay, especially during the first 6 months of dating. Don't even offer! If he asks you to pay, kindly excuse yourself to the bathroom and leave! (i had this happen to me once).
4) Keep your mouth shut! No one likes a one sided conversation. When we get nervous we all tend to talk a lot. Just remember, this is a two way conversation, you must ask questions and then allow him to talk.
5) NEVER EVER EVER talk about past relationships good or bad ones during your first date, in fact until you are in a committed relationship with the person 3-6 months, don't do it! If they ask, just politely say "I prefer not to discuss that as I really want to get to know you more"
6) Be polite, if you feel you just didn't care for him and you don't want to kiss him goodnight, be honest, say thank you for the date and that you enjoyed your time but it doesn't seem to be a good fit. (you really can NOT tell from one date if the guy is right for you or not). Take time to really get to know him and in the meantime you are getting a night out on the town with someone to talk too, which sure beats sitting at home lonely, bored and feeling sorry for yourself.
7) If you really liked him but he hasn't called you and a few days has gone by, don't stress. Call him but only call ONCE! If he answers, great, then say hello and I was just thinking of you and I wanted to tell you again that I had a wonderful time on our date. If you want to go out with him again, you can say something like "I sure would love to go out with such a handsome man like you again" (stroke thier ego, they love it). If he doesn't answer, leave a nice polite message that you were just wanting to thank him again for such a nice time and that you would enjoy going out again. If he calls great, if he doesn't call let it go, he isn't interested, move on, say NEXT!
I hope these have helped you a little. Remember, men are not intimidated by you, you simply have forgotten how to be feminine and allow men to be masculine! Sit back, let a man be a man and enjoy the rewards and blessings you will receive!
Till next time,