Have you ever dealt with someone whereby you are constantly struggling to determine the intent of his behaviors? The pondering and mere interpretative thought processes are regretfully sad, needless to say.
I realize that some people only do things that their hearts desire. There is another set of people who do things without emotional attachments, but execute them more so to "save face." This man, to which I reference, is not genuine; he is obligatory motivated to make himself look good to his spectators. Thus, when a man is hell bent on protecting his image rather than nurturing your feelings, it is he - not you - who is the center of his attention. That's right. I said it!
In other words, his external worldly appearance is more important to him than you are. Unequivocally, you are secondary. Remember, the whole town is watching. For sure, he can't let them down. You...are another subject. You will accept the subservience. If I were him, why should I change my smoothness, though fake, when it is gracefully accepted.
Sometimes, it may take a while to figure this out because as a violative doer, he has become an expert practitioner. He has timelessly committed so many egregious coverups that his acts are as easy as breathing air. It's funny how he is so busy covering up his shortcomings without addressing them. How's that for maximizing his efforts, time and attention toward redress? On the flip side, he really doesn't have to lift his finger to change as long as there is a willing recipient in you or your acquiescence.
If you have to question the integrity of his deeds, that is a major concern. It is also an issue that only he can fix. Stop dragging yourself through the mud trying to second guess him, live his lie, or make excuses for his conduct. He is as dastardly as he demonstrates because he made himself that way - not you. Stop blaming yourself!
Graciously, life gives us options and you have one. You can get out, run as fast as you can, never look back and kick his disingenuous self to the curve. That's my advice! It may take some time, maybe longer than anticipated, but you can do it!
Since he is trying to please every Tom, Dick, Harry and Tyrone, why don't you stop coming to his rescue; let them help him figure this one out!
Tell you what: Let him "call Tyrone but don't let him use your phone! "