It seems that there are daters that end up spending far too much time going on trivial dates and then others that spend far too much time being extremely picky. One might ask, "How do modern daters create at dating style that earns them the type of dates they desire?," and "How do they spend less time having dates be nothing more than waste of good energy that would have been better used for important people?"
I have an answer that uses a fall themed analogy just for all you cynical daters out there.
Pick your date, like you're picking apples!
First, know what you are looking for:
When you pick apples, you have to know which kind you want and which you don't. This is simple in an environment when your only task is to choose fruit, but the dating scene doesn't have to be too different. Having an awareness of practical traits on a mental list is just as important as outward looks and ideal "chemistry." If somebody is very attractive physically, make sure that you probe them for their personality traits also. Don't assume that physical attraction will somehow force a bond in compatibility. "Getting to know" somebody can be fun, but if you waste a lot of time, it might not be as fun as you thought. The important thing is to, first, be aware of what you want and aim for those traits when choosing a date.
Second, if you are too picky, you will end up frustrated:
If somebody picking apples had to make sure every apple had the perfect color and shine to it, they would be there for far too many hours. Facing the truth about people (and fruit) means that if you look for the "perfect" item, you sure have your work cut out for you. I'm going to assume that most daters do not make finding dates a full time job, and I'm imagining that is why we have modern day matchmaking agencies. Nobody or no matchmaker, wants to spent hour after hour, hopelessly looking for something so perfect that the task just turns out frustrating. Investing a "frustrating" amount into finding a date, would probably just make somebody want to jump into an emotional fit if the date didn't turn out well, and so the "fun" in dating is thrown right out the window. This is an extremely easy way to get "tired of dating," in my opinion.
So, with your mental list of sure fire desires in a mate (that are practical), you need to accept dates that might not be "perfect," but hold up as "very good" candidates, just as you would be while picking apples for a homemade pie. Metaphorically, you would pick the "right" kind of date (apple), yet, worry less about "perfection."
Next time you are picking apples, try out recognizing the happy feeling you get when you use both the knowledge of what you want and the realistic view that "just right" doesn't have to be "perfect."