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Apollo Nida's guilty plea: Did his ego cost him his freedom?

Apollo Nida poses in the gym. Has his ego cost him his freedom and family?
Apollo Nida poses in the gym. Has his ego cost him his freedom and family?
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As the saying goes, "Pride comes before a fall." Apollo Nida has succumbed to his pride, as he pleaded guilty to multiple criminal charges of fraud in a federal district court in Georgia on Tuesday, May 6, 2014. According to the Atlanta Journal Constitution, Nida blamed his decision to defraud his victims on his inability to keep up with his reality star wife's exorbitant salary. Did Nida's ego cost him his freedom and possibly his family?

In 2009, Nida impregnated and then married Georgia attorney Phaedra Parks. Shortly thereafter, Parks quit playing behind the scenes of reality tv, she worked on "Being Bobby Brown", and jumped in front of the cameras for "Real Housewives of Atlanta," another BravoTV network production. The "RHOA" series follows the lavish, often chaotic, lives of Atlanta suburbanites.

Parks married Nida a few months after he was released from prison on prior convictions of fraud. On the show, Parks is known for throwing lavish soirees for the life events of her family. Most recently she held an inauguration themed celebration for the birth of her second son with Nida, Dylan. On the show, Parks had extravagant baby showers for her children, and a first birthday party for son, Ayden with twelve birthday cakes.

New homes, new cars, and the best of everything are displayed on "RHOA". Nida's claim that he chose to continue in a life of crime in order to keep pace with his successful wife, does not seem too far-fetched. Nida is not the first BravoTV personality to find himself facing prison. Theresa and Joe Guidice of the New Jersey cast, were convicted for their financial crimes earlier this year. They all lived lavishly. But was it worth it?

Financial issues have seemingly destroyed many marriages. Prior to his first incarceration, Nida had allegedly built a life where luxury was at hand, but low scale. Keeping up with cast mates and expensive tastes can weigh on a person's psyche. (Nida claims that he had a nervous breakdown in the midst of his criminal enterprise.) Couple that with having a felony that involves misappropriation of monies and fraud, and you will be hard pressed to find a legitimate career that will afford you the finances necessary to maintain excess.

Truthfully, it would have been difficult for Nida to find any job at all so soon after being released from prison. Then Nida's TV persona comes off as self-centered and immature, yet loving of his children. When you have a personality that places what you have materialistically above your character, your ego will take control and leave rational thinking blowing in the wind. Ego will have you working off of emotions more than reasoned judgment. Often, it is ego, not financial issues, that is really the culprit in marital discord.

Traditionally speaking, men are to be providers and protectors of their families. Parks extols the virtues of being a Southern belle and even wrote a book about it. Traditional values are a virtue in the eyes of many Southern belles. Therefore, a man being able to provide at the level one becomes accustomed to, is paramount. Or so it may seem. In reality, women and men both work and share responsibilities in families and have been doing so for ever. It is possible, however, that Nida felt inadequate with his wife taking the lead on everything.

It seems, on the show, that Parks wears the pants in the family and treats Nida like one of her children. Falling back into a life of crime could have been prevented had Nida been given, or taken, time to adjust to life outside of prison walls before being thrust into the spotlight. That readjustment could have included an attitude adjustment and time to recover from the poor decisions he had made in the past. Yet the trappings of luxury were more alluring than having a stable and secure family, apparently.

Nida may have decided that his value to himself, and his wife, was based on how much he could provide, which is a perspective many men take and many women, sometimes unwittingly, reinforce. The reality could have been that Parks merely wanted an ambitious man who loved her and their children.

Advice: Before jumping into a situation you are unprepared for, think about the consequences long term more than you think about the immediate rewards.

There's no word as to whether or not Parks plans to stay with her husband through his legal troubles.