photo by Kate Uhry Photography
Another bride, another June, another sunny, honeymoon. It is no secret that June will roll around the corner before we know it, and brides everywhere will be tying the knot. While March winds blow in Connecticut, spring is less then a week away, and June, just around the corner.
While most brides plan their whole lives for the quintessential June wedding, grooms, on the other hand, have probably not given their actual wedding much thought. While dreams of peonies, and roses are swirling around in your head, it is more then likely, that your sweetie is swept up in March madness right now. (Think of it: Have you ever heard anyone say "groom and bride"?)
So how do you get on the same page when planning your wedding, and trying make him a part of it? The groom’s roll in the planning has always been thrown to the wayside, whether this stems from tradition, or just plain old lack of interest, more then not, the groom will nod his head when asked, “flower petals or birdseed?”
It is not just the decision making process that you may want help in, you may want his enthusiasm, over the gorgeous bridesmaid dresses you picked. And while he peeks up from watching the game, says, “that’s nice", you may feel dejected (or frustrated at the least). Don't fret, it's not that he dosn't love you, but frankly, the basketball game is just more interesting.
It’s not that women are superficial or casual in our relationships; in fact the opposite is true. It is that somehow women, from a young age were brainwashed about wedding gowns, and princess fairytales. Whether it is a cultural bias of how women and men are raised, or just simply that we are strung differently. Either way, a bride-to-be, should not be crestfallen, when her fiancé isn’t as enthusiastic about what type of votives will be on the tables.
Previously I wrote about the tasks a man could do to assist in the planning. It is best at the beginning of the planning that you divvy up the responsibilities. Typically the groom’s family will host a rehearsal dinner. Some other tasks you can assign him are music, planning the honeymoon, and taking care of the paperwork that is involved in getting your license.
Let your family include him in any meetings with a planner, if he has an idea, listen. And remember through all the planning madness that at the end of the day, it does not matter how beautiful the setting is, the end results are the same--you will be husband and wife.
For fun planning tips and ideas, visit this great local website My Kate Parker Wedding. You can get ideas for color scheme, floral, photography, all on one site. This innovative site allows you to see real weddings, and then track the vendors, follow their blogs, and view photographs.