It’s a relatively new month – November, to be exact – and you’re probably thinking “Gee, I could really go for some societal wisdom right now.” You, dearest reader, have come to the right place.
Before moving on, though, there’s something you should know. If you are okay with peering into the delicate underbelly of friendship, then you should be fine. If you prefer to live in a My Little Pony utopia where everyone is civil, no one here will stop you. But this series of articles, in its gritty, unbound nature, is not all toots and giggles. You and the arrogant writer of this article, with his grandiose schemes and histrionic manner, are about to take a journey together through one single wing of the dubious maze that is the interpersonal relationship. Really, that’s what this whole topic is about; regardless of where you happen to find yourself, relationships tend to happen. But this article is a little special, because it’s not really an article; in fact, it is an introduction to a series of articles about opinions.
But writer, isn’t that a little vague?
Yes, reader, it most certainly is. And that is why it will be split up into five separate articles (six, if you include the one you are currently reading), each delving into a specific, opinion-related scenario. Oh, and the premise of this series is that “outside” opinions are, under most circumstances, useless. The initial draft was called “5 reasons outside opinions are useless”, which was going to be a simple, solo-flying list, but that would be far too trite and, well, practical. Also, it's never been done before, except for all the times that it has. Anyway – disclaimer fini.
You live in a world where a man (or woman)’s value is measured, well, with the metric system, mostly. The liters’ worth of Chanel No. 5 you can afford, the weight in ounces of gold bricks stashed away in your shoebox in your closet, the meter-by-meter length of your flat-screen 3D TV – right? These are the qualities by which people so often define their fellows. This whole paragraph could have been replaced by the word “materialism.”
It could be argued that those material things are somewhat a reflection of the cumulative positive and negative decisions one makes, but how relevant are they to the biggest question of all? The answer is not relevant at all, and the question is “who are you?” This idea goes beyond the physical – if Mozart were reborn today he would likely not get far without a legally granted suffix. But the point is that you have to take that question and use action to answer it – while not allowing those around you drain your batteries. Because they will – oh, they will.
Those outsiders will chew you up and spit you out with their insecure, convicting, attention-hustling, irrelevant and “guilty until proven innocent” opinions and half-cocked appraisals. Don’t you listen to those outsiders. That’s what these articles are all about – the useless opinions of the outsiders.
For that reason, this series is going to be entitled “Stay Gold”. Stay tuned.