Last evening in Carol Stream, Illinois at the Holiday Inn on Gary Avenue, a funeral service was held for an 18-year-old young man whose life had just begun. Andrew Wilcox, a recent graduate of Wheaton North High School had a car accident the week before coming back from his beloved Green Bay Packers game.
As parents we tend to ask ourselves why the young must go before their elders. As family members, the grandparents must wonder why the order of life has been discombobulated. As human beings looking in from the outside in, we all must wonder how a parent, especially a mother, can cope through a situation as dire as this tragic death was.
Mothers are very special to their children. There is a bond forged from the moment that the child is conceived in the womb; a bond, if love is conscious, is hard to break. From another mother’s perspective, no mother should ever have to say goodbye to their baby.
To help a mother get relief from such anxiety, the community must step in and offer their support. No matter how much pain it causes, the mother is always feeling the loss. As one wise man stated last evening, the pain is one to never be forgotten by a loving mother.
As mothers in the community gather, words of encouragement can be offered, but listening is a gift that is completely appreciated. Don’t be afraid to cry with the mother, but don’t be a further reason to enhance the feeling of loss.
Sometimes purchasing a journal and presenting it at an appropriate time can be a source of comfort for the woman that has lost so much. Also prayers of comfort and concern help to put the pain into perspective.
As parents in modern day society, we have to be strong, be aware, be supportive and simply provide love and compassion for our children. There are so many issues that many of us did not have to face – from designer drugs, to cutting, to shooters in schools, to deadly games played that take the life of the young.
Andrew’s accident was simply just that….an accident. While his parents are reassured by the fact that their child was not privy to negative outside influences, the pain is still present; it is real – especially for his mother.
As the Wilcox and Leahy minister stated last evening, we should all remember our beliefs and know that one day we will be reunited. Until then, believe, pray, and portray good actions.
As a community, Wheaton-ites can unite. Together we can help this mother through her tragic pain and remember that her son was a good man. Parents can help others through loss, it may take some deep strength, but in today’s world, we must all stick together!