"I'll see you when the sun comes up" is a phrase you'll hear every night in our house that started many years ago. Actually my husband started this nightly ritual between himself and our son way before the Autism diagnosis, which was later narrowed down to Asperger's Syndrome. At the time, I thought nothing of it but a sweet way to end the day before he drifted off to sleep. I even started to say it myself after our young son whispered the words to me once as I kissed him on his forehead goodnight. I immediately thought, Wow! I was just invited to be a part of what I thought would only be something between him and his dad.
What is so funny is that I knew my child loved this phrase but it just recently dawned on me the reason why. I believe it's his way and now our way to say no matter what the day was like or how hard things may have seemed, the sun will come up and we will be blessed with a new day full of possibilities. Thankfully, our family has been blessed with so many good things and I always tell my children that each day is going to be full of surprises. However, on those days when expectations at school are confusing to my son, those days when he feels left out by his peers, and those days when the daily grind becomes a little overwhelming to any child much less one on the Autism spectrum; our nightly ritual becomes so much more than just words. These words that are now exchanged with our girls as well are a way of adding continuity into every night, something that never changes, an on-going event that is expected and gives comfort. I have found that I need to hear these words from their little mouths each night as well and it is they who also give comfort to me. The quiet and peacefulness of night is so often times a much needed gift of rest and a time to rejunivate our minds and souls. That little phrase, I'll see you when the sun comes up, has become a reminder to myself and my family that no matter what, we are always here, supporting one another through the good times and the bad. Just one more lesson Autism and being a mom has taught me.