Vernon Sanders Law once shared, “Experience is a hard teacher because she gives the test first, the lesson afterwards.” And, from my experience if you do not learn this lesson, it will keep coming back to hunt you down again and again until you do learn it!
This quote made me think about rebound and recovery. As you age and cope through more and more hardship, do you feel like your bounce back may be less buoyant? Is it possible you may be carrying the heaviness of emotional residue from past hardships? I’m sure you know someone who has suffered a number of life-altering events and, since the latest trauma he or she just hasn’t been the same.
In the mental health profession, what I just described above is called a person’s allostatic load.
If you look at the written diagram I posted with this article it will help you understand this concept better. Basically, most of us start healthy and with each hardship we endure, we may or may not fully recover. Traumatic experience after experience can leave painful residue and cause you to dive farther and farther away from your healthiest allostatic state. As we feel more beat down our life tolerance lessons. If you listen to the news it doesn’t take long to hear a story about someone who snapped over the most trivial thing; this is an individual with a high allostatic load.
It is important for you to realize this load so you can work to take better care of yourself and focus on processing this residue that is clinging to you from the past.