All men are just the same! How many times have you made this statement? They are all deadbeats, cheaters, no good etc. Have you ever taken a really good look at the one thing they all have in common? That would be you. Perhaps its time to consider that the problem is not that all men are the same, perhaps the real problem is that the men you allow into your life are all the same!
If every man you have ever been involved with has failed to meet your expectations in some way, left you feeling empty and ready to give up, its time to take a personal assessment. What are you projecting? Are you being really clear about your expectations, needs and desires?
This is not to say you should give a man a complete list of guidelines he has to meet on the first date. However, as you take time to get to know someone, you should be getting to know more than just the initial physical attraction that lured you in the first place. Over time, you should be discovering what you both want out of someone else. Are you both on the same page about what you want from a relationship? Have you discussed your expectations regarding being exclusive? What about your religious beliefs, family ties and close friendships? Take the time to talk about everything from short term goals to your dreams for the future.
In order to fully form a strong bond with the potential to become the relationship you really desire requires a lot of open and honest communication, even if it hurts. Because lets be honest, sometimes the truth can be difficult to hear. However, failure to fully get to know each others needs will only lead to disappointment on one or both sides down the line. The goal is to find someone that enhances you and adds value to your life. Someone who believes in you and encourages you to go after the things of importance to you, in other words your best friend and biggest cheerleader.
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