Don’t think technology abuse doesn’t pertain to you or any one close to you. Any form of abuse is an act of violence; it doesn’t need to be loud and physically leave a bruise, but often does.
Does your email account, things you posted, websites or pages keep getting deleted or disappearing? If you share a computer or passwords with your partner, the website or faulty internet service or website is not to blame. Many women and teen girls refuse to believe their partner is the cause of it until it is too late. Are the people who talk to you online being harassed and losing their pages and emails too? Partners hack. And you are usually the last one to know about it.
A personal story
One online business friend/contact of mine goes through more email addresses and Facebook accounts than a city of people. She is constantly sending friends and business contacts updates of yet another new email address and Facebook account, with excuses and sentences of blaming the sites and claims she doesn’t know why they just delete her accounts. She also has a new boyfriend, and recently married him, and since they moved in together it happens double –time. If you knowingly did not post anything that is against site regulations, there is something else afoot. It’s passive-aggressive anger/behavior. It stops her from working from home online and slows don her money to keep backtracking all of the time, and it’s abusive.
It can’t be happening to me, it’s not domestic abuse
Yes it can. Let’s take the word “domestic” out of the equation; partner abuse is not just abuse that happens to married people and physical abuse. More people choose to live together these days and not get married, and more people share homes because of the economic situation facing many people in the United States, teens (and adults) who date one another and live in separate homes can be abused physically or mentally (one out of every three teens).
Technology abuse happens in adult relationships and is speeding rapidly in teen relationships. For teens most violence and abuse occurs through technology, their cell phones and at school,
You do not own your boyfriend or girlfriend, partner, spouse, and jealousy and rage don’t count as excuses to cause harm
Manipulation and control are not healthy forms of relationship. Getting angry because your boyfriend is spending too much time with another girl is normal, acting out on it “Crimes of Passion” are in the news every day-slitting her tires or killing him or ruining an online reputation, are not normal forms of love.
It’s not love. It's an act of violence and abuse. Guilt-tripping, limiting partner involvement online, stealing their phone or forcing them to hand it over so you can go through it, using or stealing passwords to stalk or constantly check on websites and pages, threatening to cut or kill themselves or leave unless you do something for him, checking your pictures, updates and sends, is an invasion of privacy and is psychological violence.
If he blames you for everything that goes wrong to the point you are crying and falling apart, if he says let’s keep the relationship on the down low or a secret because he doesn’t want anyone person or several people to know he’d date you, if they are showing up constantly unannounced when you are with friends or family use this as a red flag, leave.”
Emotional abuse is the first sign something is very wrong, and often leads to physical violence and acts of bullying. Emotional abuse is harder to detect unless the victim talks out loud about it. If she is guarded in her speech, if she only speaks when spoken to, if she becomes nervous and stuttering or stumbling over words, in her partners prescence, depressed and cries almost daily, there is something more than a relationship going on and it’s not healthy. Teen relationships and adult relationship have their spats, but not for days on end and not at the expense of the partners self-esteem or to control.
Emotional abuse leaves its scars. It's trauma and an online reputation follows you
If you have been abused mentally or physically seek help with therapy or counseling, there are free centers all over the United States. If you can’t talk to family and friends call and talk to a specialist who is trained in getting you the help you need. The websites generally don't want to get involved unless blatant abuse of site regulations are going on.
Many people bank online because they work online. More prevalent than ever and the most often used form of abuse comes in the form of cutting off and controlling your access to money, limits your access to bank accounts, hides their paycheck, when they got paid or how much they got paid, gets you fired, takes your keys or bus fare, is one way to trap you. Knowing you would be broke without financial support is the cause for interference and you are in an unhealthy relationship.
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