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Like the famous Robert Palmer song says,You're gonna have to to face it, you're addicted to love", do you think you might be facing an addiction to on-line love or dating?
After reading my first article about Internet dating www.examiner.com/x-35018-Las-Vegas-Tech-Dating-Examiner~y2010m1d10-Is-it-possible-to-find-real-love-through-internet-dating one of my readers asked me, "Do you think people that go on those site, go because they just like the pursuit? Do you think that most of them really want to settle down, or is it just another way to have a date. I had some bad experiences. On a few of them it seemed like they were looking more for the game of it, what's your take?"
My take is that while a lot of people go on these dating sites to actually meet one person they want to date long-term, there sure seem to be a lot of them who go on-line for attention or the game of it all. They might have started out innocent enough thinking they wanted to find a great person to go out with and possibly meet someone to get serious with, but once they started getting those daily e-mails, "winks", or "nudges", they were hooked. Now they come home every day with anticipation just to see who else might be interested in them or What other new person is out there. Hey, it's flattering to anyone's ego to get this kind of attention. It's instant gratification and it can help a person feel better about themselves. There's also the added bonus that its much easier to be rejected on-line than it is in real life. So are you addicted to the thrill of on-line dating or even just being on the sites? Ask yourself these questions.
- Do you get anxious if you can’t check messages and mails right away after work or first thing in the morning or do you find yourself checking your site several times a day?
- Do you date a new person more than three or four times a week?
- Do you find it hard to choose between going out on a date with someone you have already met and found attractive and talking to a new possibility?
- Have you ever stopped seeing someone because you got an e-mail from someone new who seems like they might be more attractive than the person you are already seeing?
- If you do decide to see someone exclusively, do you keep your profile active “just in case”?
- Are you putting off seeing someone exclusively because you just can't stop looking and looking and looking?
- Do you just like e-mailing, flirting, and looking, but not really meeting anyone for a real date?
If you answered yes to more than one or two of these questions, you just might be a serial dater and/or be addicted to on-line dating.
If you truly want to meet someone but are finding it difficult because of any of the above problems, you might need to re-think why you are really on a dating site and re-vamp your ways of going about meeting someone for real. You might need to take a break from it all and get grounded again.
An alternative solution is that you might want to try another route of meeting someone by attending a local speed dating site like www.lasvegasspeeddate.com . This might be a great way to break yourself of the on-line serial dating cycle as you can meet up to fifteen new potential dating partners in one night in real life at a local restaurant or lounge. Plus there’s no pressure. You have a face-to-face conversation with each one and then secretly decide if you would like to see that person again. If you both come to the same conclusion then Las Vegas Speed Date provides you with the other person’s contact information, so no one's feelings are hurt and the whole world doesn't have to know if you were rejected or not.
Whether you continue to date on-line or try a speed dating event, take a look in the mirror and ask yourself if you want to meet someone for real or are you just playing games? Be honest. Usually problems in finding or being in a relationship start with yourself. The bottom line is the golden rule, treat your prospective dates the way you would want to be treated yourself.
Again, I hope these articles are helpful and informative. If you have any questions or need advice or have any suggestions for me about dating in Las Vegas or anywhere else, please feel free to e-mail me at firstname.lastname@example.org.