I always say, live by example.
Nobody wants to take advice from somebody unless there's a compelling reason backing them up. Documented experience, credentials, even close relatives in the biz.. something, anything..
When I was a kid, I would make my own commercials and interviews on a tape recorder. I wanted to be a radio jock. Then at age 17, I was swept away by the evil tide known as domestic violence. Being washed up onshore 22 years later, I started life over again.
But this time, on my terms. I'm putting me first.
I learned there is nothing wrong with wanting to become known. All the forced delusions of what [he said] I should be doing, what is acceptable, and what everyone thinks.. were no longer clouds over my head or weights pulling my ankles down. These shackles were cut and I was free!
Well, my first radio show with my cell phone and an online platform, in late 2009.
Since January of this year, I have been published in local papers, in online media, marketing websites, and, I had a TV interview in LA. Anaheim actually to be exact, during the NAMM show, to be used in a segment featuring women in the music industry.
I was bestowed Media Badges to shows featuring the musicians not only that I grew up with, but the hottest current stars too, and the manufacturers of the instruments and equipment, I was interviewing them, posing for pics and having a chuckle. Wow.
Here is a short list of tips for scoring in your dream career.
Never give up. Don't let anybody define you. If you want it bad enough, you will find a way to make it happen.
1. Ask! If you never ask, the answer is always no. I responded to a blanket email, blindly. It was to the point and sincere, and it got the attention of the producers.
2. Believe in yourself. If you can't speak about who you are and what you're doing, nobody will look at you as a solid. Look people in the eye, smile, genuinely, and mingle! Learn who people are and how they are tied together.
3. I stopped listening when others tried to define me.. or tell me no. No more second guesses when you hear "What gives you the right to..." or "What about your kids.. or dogs.. or office responsibility.." ah phooey. It all will be there. Treat yourself to opportunities. The more you create, the more doors that will open. Don't feel guilty and don't listen when people try to tell you why you shouldn't. The real reason people talk that way is because they want you to share their shortcomings.
4. Don't be ashamed of who you are. The force grows with your success. People will nitpick.. run pass interference and do your thing.
5. Be proud of where you're going. - Go bold and strong. Put yourself where you want to end up, in that circle, in that town, go shoulder to shoulder. Observe, listen, ask questions.. but don't be naggy or winey.
Please check out the interview just published this week in Women International Music Network and I am very grateful to Laura Whitmore and her right hand man, Tom Gilbert. Glad to have met new friends Meredythe Winter and Suzanne Penley.