Take it from a mother that has taken the journey to land her to share the Walk to Remember, there will be few dry eyes present this Saturday, October 12th for Naperville’s 9th Annual Walk to take place at the Riverwalk Grand Pavilion in downtown Naperville. As they state, ’Every step together we honor, heal & hope.’
The event is put on by the Edward Foundation’s SHARE Program. The Program provides families, especially mothers, a nurturing place to come together or those who have experienced pregnancy or infant loss. SHARE is a local and national organization that serves and, most importantly, supports those who are touched by the loss of a child due to miscarriage, stillbirth and early infant death.
On Tuesday, the Daily Herald featured stories from women that have lost their babies due to one cause or another. Most of the stories were about women that had babies they carried to term. So, what about the women that have miscarriages, and in the minds of some people, they are not considered a mother even though that life of that child was bore inside them and they felt growth – if even for a time?
SHARE helps with that scenario, too. I know, because I have poured my heart out after five miscarriages. Gratefully, I do have two living sons besides the host of angels awaiting me someday when I am called home.
Although that is my belief, at the time of the losses, no one could tell me anything. All of my friends were getting pregnant, having baby showers, sporting the best and latest baby equipment and cute clothes draped over soft, cuddly, tiny human beings. What did I have….nothing!
My first baby was growing and doing fine until a mishap. I had a personal trauma and felt the life of my daughter fade from within me. I knew she was gone, but I still could not believe it. Afterward, it was discovered that I had Stage 1 uterine cancer; chances were slim that I would get pregnant again.
I prayed and prayed and finally, after several years of treatment, my prayers were answered. My son, Reese was conceived. I actually, for the first time felt as though I was going to be able to have a large family because my pregnancy was so great!
That was not the case, however. Between my two living sons, I had another three miscarriages and finally a 5th after my youngest son, Drew, was born. My body could take no more and I had a complete hysterectomy at the age of 35. Although this was devastating in itself, I knew that I had been granted a new lease on life because I could finally enjoy the two sons that I did have and not contemplate another loss.
Every story is different. Every story is unique. Every story is heart-wrenching in its own right.
Although these articles are not made for personal purposes, there are times when the writers fit the bill and are the news. At those times, if there is a positive outcome to be had, it should be shared.
Stories of love and loss and renewal will take place this Saturday. If you know of anyone that could benefit from the feeling of community, support and love, please bring them to Naperville for the 9th Annual Walk to Remember. You will certainly be doing them a great favor!
Please see the following if you are interested:
- Edward SHARE Program: 630-527-3263
- Edward Foundation: 630-527-5956
- Find more ways to help here.