The following is a Teaching on love from the New Message from God, a religious movement based upon these Teachings, the Revelations received by Marshall Vian Summers, by which he is considered a Messenger from God. The complete chapter from Wisdom from the Greater Community Volume One is available free online. Reprinted with permission.
So what do you do now to have more love in your life? What do you do now to experience the rewards of being loving and lovable without becoming dishonest or self-degrading? Here is a little secret. If you want to experience love with people, it is very simple. People do not think of this because they are associating love with behavior and not necessarily with experience.
When you are with another, be present to that person. Being present means that you are more with them than with your own thoughts. You are not preoccupied with your thoughts. You are not preoccupied with them, either. You are just being present. It is a state of being an observer without preference. It is amazing what this can yield, but it takes mental preparation.
The problem in relationships is that people are completely consumed with their own thoughts. In fact, they are so consumed with their own thoughts that they are not even relating to one another. They are relating to their thoughts about one another. Indeed, people can be together for long periods of time and not experience each other at all. They are attempting to use the relationship to validate their thoughts about each other and their expectations, needs and so forth. But if you are present with another, which means that you are observant without preference and without conclusion, then you will have an opportunity to experience something very great.
This is not about relationship yet. This is about recognition, which is the beginning of relationship. It is the beginning of a true experience of love. It is also not about empathizing with people. That is relating to another person’s experience, which is actually more about you than it is about them. Empathizing with another confirms that you are not alone. It relieves the burden and anxiety of separation momentarily, which gives you an experience of relief and happiness briefly. This is worthwhile, but We are speaking of something far more powerful.
Do not try to be loving. Do not try to look good. Do not try to look anything. Here you do not matter. Be all eyes and ears and feeling. Do not use the encounter to try to prove something. The results of doing this are very immediate.
The attractions that individuals feel for each other are not always this recognition, which is not passionate and does not make you feel like a crazy person who has taken a strong drug and has gone into some kind of great tornado of passions. It is a deep feeling and it is calm. It is recognition, not stimulation. It is not like taking a great romantic journey. It is a calm settling down within yourself, for your True Self has just been honored and discovered through this encounter. Do not think, however, that because you have had an experience of recognition that relationship is instantaneous or guaranteed. Relationship is based upon what you can do together in life.
The major factor for true relationship is greater compatibility. Greater means that it is larger than the idea of compatibility that is generally assumed. It means that you are compatible in your natures. It does not necessarily mean that you are compatible in your judgments, evaluations and preferences, for these are things on the surface of your mind. Greater compatibility means that the deeper you go together, the greater the resonance between you. It means that you are not opposed to each other’s spiritual calling. In fact, you complement each other’s spiritual calling. This is always greater than your understanding. With greater compatibility, your natures resonate with each other. Being together produces a better result than you could produce alone. Now you are both able and prepared to acknowledge the spiritual life that is destined for you.
Thus We have recognition and We have greater compatibility. Greater compatibility must be discovered through action, time and challenge. Indeed, as you face challenge together, your compatibility grows deeper and deeper. It is not exhausted or eliminated, but it must be supported. This provides the foundation for love to emerge.
Relationships of this kind are not common. Do not think you can have them with many people. You can experience recognition with many people, but greater compatibility in physical life is something that is more specific. It has to do with your calling in life, which leads you in specific ways to meet specific people for specific purposes. Your calling is mysterious, yet there is nothing in life that is more powerful, more engaging and more relevant to all of your needs.
Now this brings us to the problem of self-love. Love arises when you honor your nature because that is the fundamental act of self-acceptance. Very few people do this. People want to be something else. They carry this burden of insisting that they be something else. Life is not very accommodating here because it does not give you something else.
If people find their rightful place with others, most of their problems will go away. Why? Because they can settle down now and participate. They are not constantly questioning who they are, why they are here, what they must do to be happy, what they must do to avoid pain or what they must do to find peace. They can now simply participate.
Many of you would like to be like a Buddha or a Jesus or a saint because these individuals represent everything that We are talking about. Individuals such as these are not trying anything. Life is moving them. They are unburdened so they can follow life. It is not that they have few possessions. That is not the issue. It is that they have very little insistence upon life; yet they are fully able and desiring to participate.
Be present with others whom you meet. Then you will have a result, and the result will be an experience of recognition if you are very serious in your intent. But then a problem arises. The problem is that love can be very difficult to accept. In your relationships, you will seek out those who have as great a capacity for love as you do. A relationship requires a capacity for love, which is the capacity to experience relationship and the ability and desire to participate.
The experience of love melts you away. Your personal side, that tiny part of your mind in which you live, melts into your Impersonal Self, or True Self, because it is overtaken. That is surrender.
If you are determined that your well-being, happiness, fulfillment and longevity are entirely dependent upon your attempt to fulfill yourself, then this surrender will be very terrifying for you. But when you are tired, forlorn and have had enough and know that the next attempt will be as futile as the last, then you will accept this great gift from God, which is called love.
Love is when God overtakes you. You have stopped running. At that time, you do not care about personal fulfillment. You only want help and you only want to know: “What is it? I give up!” Then something very powerful happens. Love starts to overtake you, and you start to have an influence on other people.
The only way that you can heal another, the only way, is that your Knowledge is powerful enough to activate the Knowledge of another. This is something that is entirely beyond your conscious control. It will be as amazing to you as it is to anyone else, but very natural.
It is unfortunate that people think that self-improvement is about making life a better movie for themselves. We know that may sound hopeful, but that is not what will give you freedom, for freedom is escape from your personal side. Your personal side here is not destroyed or abandoned. It is only that your foundation has shifted. Then your life is no longer about survival. It is about contribution, and it happens naturally.
God wants to unburden people. God wants them to settle back in themselves and not try to dismantle themselves by saying, “Well, if I did not have these fears or these barriers, I would be perfect, radiant and happy all day long.” This is a very common assumption: “Well, if I had no resistance, I would be absolutely magnificent.” That is not the Path of Knowledge. That is the path of personal fulfillment. It is the path of trying to be God, trying to fulfill yourself and trying to make your world a Heaven on Earth. What happens is that you do not understand what God is doing here.
God wills for you to join with your Spiritual Family so that you may learn the law and the reality of joining because this is the foundation for true love. For this you need your Inner Teachers, though many of you will not experience them directly. They are watching over you.
Why are Inner Teachers important? Because they bring to you the memory of your life beyond this world and with it the realization of your purpose in being here. You cannot truly find your purpose without this greater sense of destiny and origin. Your purpose in the world is totally relevant to where you have come from and where you are going because you are a visitor. You have come from someplace and you have not come empty-handed, but your gift is hidden deep within you. It is hidden in your Knowledge.
You may attempt to do anything you like in this world, and you will not ruin your gift. The only failure possible is that you will not find your gift, or you may find it but not be able to contribute it. It is to guarantee as much as possible against this failure that God’s Angels have provided trainings at various levels for various individuals in special stages of development.
This is God working in the world. God does not come because God is everywhere, so how can God leave somewhere else and come here? Coming here and going there is meaningless to God. God’s Will is a force of attraction that organizes all individuals that are separated at all levels of existence. This force organizes everyone into perfect complements of each other, and this is what brings everything back to God. This is the foundation for love.
Your Inner Teachers need you because you are emissaries in the world. You have not come here merely for therapeutic reasons. This world is not a mental hospital. Some people are very excited about working out past mistakes in all lifetimes, but that is not what God asks you to do. How can you work out anything in the past? It is over. You are still carrying it around like a great bundle. Your journeys into the physical do not account for your Greater Reality.
Thus you need your Inner Teachers and they need you. It does not matter for all of you that you have conscious contact, though for some of you it is quite significant. It is always worth your concern and focus, however, because it is the reclamation of true relationship. Fully comprehending the presence of your Teachers in this life is to have an experience of relationship directly. This will prepare you to be in meaningful relationships with other people with far greater ability and resourcefulness.
When people first have any idea of Inner Teachers, they project all of their ideas upon them. They try and make Teachers look like this or like that. They expect Teachers to act very angelic or very powerful and very commanding. Some people want Teachers to be like little helpers to kind of help them along. There are some people who have received ideas from their Teachers and have even heard their voices, but they have no idea who they are. It is only when you and your Teachers actually do something together that your relationship becomes comprehensible.
Love will arise naturally when you are present for people and when you have come to terms with your true inclinations in life. Then love begins to permeate your life and activities. It is something that abides with you, not something that you stir up. You continue to be foolish perhaps, but the Spiritual Presence is abiding with you increasingly, and it goes with you. This is the purpose of our work, to provide an environment and a curriculum that makes this truly possible in a short period of time.
When people respond to someone who is advanced, they are not responding to the person. They are responding to the Spiritual Presence that is with the person. Often advanced individuals say, “No, it is not me. Do not look at me. I am not doing it. It is with me.” There is a lot of emptiness in their lives for this Grace to fill.
We are very blessed to receive the presence of one another, to be able to touch life with life, to be able to touch this worldly life with life beyond the world. We are nourished through this contact. We are heard and We hear you. We give thanks for this opportunity. Nasi Novare Coram.
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