The following is a Teaching from the New Message from God, which is a religious movement based upon the revelations of Marshall Vian Summers, considered by practitioners to be a Messenger from God. Reprinted with permission.
The problem with love is that people try to love. They try to be loving. They even try to be loved. It does not work very well to do this because to be loving is not the first step.
Many people talk about love saying, “Well, if you are loving, then this will happen, and your life will become more joyful, and people will respond to you more positively. If you are more loving, you will have a greater degree of friendship and companionship. If you are more loving, you will experience God more directly.”
The problem with this approach is that people cannot try to be loving. They try to be loving on top of their current experience, which often is not very loving. You cannot place a sentiment on top of your experience and hope that your sentiment will be successful. Love is an expression of your own Knowledge. It is an expression of your True Mind.
So let us not try to be loving so that we can be more honest with each other. Honesty requires that you begin where you really are. You cannot begin from where you want to be. You cannot be where you want to be. You can only be where you are. If your current state at this moment is not a state of profound love, then you must express that state and find constructive ways of doing that.
This in itself is a great step forward. It requires you to become self-observant and to disassociate yourself from your experience enough so that you can look at it objectively. This involves a certain degree of self-acceptance. You must accept your current state. You cannot be waging war against it, even in the attempt to become more loving.
That is fruitless and will lead to a greater sense of personal failure, which you do not need.
Love will come naturally in its own way. You do not need to create it. It will emanate from you when the conditions are right, and other people will respond to it. You will not be trying to be loving or kind or nice or lovable.
The problem with trying to be loving is that you lose respect for yourself because trying to be loving is a form of self-denial. It is saying, “My current state is repugnant. I will not honor it, and I will attempt to be in a more desirable state.” Well, a more desirable state may indeed be worthwhile, but you cannot attain it through self-repudiation.
So let us talk about love in terms of preparation, the kind of preparation that allows love to emerge naturally. When love emerges naturally, there is no dishonesty. There is no self-denial. Love is happening. Your challenge now is merely to accept it and to allow it to emanate. You will be as much a recipient of it as those with whom you are engaged.
Let us make a few important points regarding this. First of all, you do not create love. You cannot manipulate love. In fact, you cannot do anything with love, but it can do something with you. You cannot drum it up. You cannot add it on. You cannot strive for it. It is elusive, if you do. If you are open and cultivating yourself correctly, it will be a natural emanation. It is both a result and a cause in and of itself. Like Knowledge, it is a force that is latent within you. As you focus upon it and allow it to express itself, and as you become a substantial person who has a capacity for Knowledge, love will emanate naturally.
Love is not an emotion. It is not always kind. It does not maintain one appearance only. Ideas of being loving and lovable conjure up certain forms of behavior and mannerisms and certain forms of etiquette and social obligation. But this is only acting at love. Love is very powerful. It does not need your creations. It only needs for you to become an empty vessel through which it can express itself.
Love may make many appearances. If you think about this, you will realize that there have been times in your life that were extremely difficult and very challenging, times that you rejected and could not tolerate. Yet their result was a greater experience of love and relationship. Those “great romances” that failed you, did they not save you from a worse calamity? And in retrospect, could you not look back and say, “My God! I almost married that person! I am so glad it did not go that way!” But at the time was it not terribly painful? That was love in action, too, but it did not look loving at the time.
It is only when you look at your life from a greater perspective that you see and sense that your life is being gently guided along. And when it is not gently guided, it means that you have gone too far away, and you need a stronger assistance. Therefore, you get a little push now. It is not so gentle, but you need this because you have disassociated yourself from your own Knowledge substantially, and you need a strong correction from life.
Love is mysterious. It is not always happy; it is not always kind, but it always carries you forward toward the Source of love itself.
God’s purpose in life is to unburden you. That is God’s first purpose. God cannot give you anything until you are unburdened. You cannot carry a gift from God if your hands are full of your own necessities. People at the beginning ask God, “Help me get what I want. I want this and I want that, and I want you to make sure I get it. If you are real, you will do this for me.” Here you are not quite sure if the things you want are not merely burdens for you. If you keep demanding from life that you have these things without result, maybe it is not in your best interests or maybe it is not time for such things.
God’s first purpose is to unburden you, and the unburdening is an act of love. In fact, you will do most of the work. Do you know why? Because trying to fulfill yourself is so terribly disappointing. Only God can fulfill you and only you can fulfill God. God knows this, so God is not counting on anything else. You are trying to correct your life, rearrange your life, re-establish your life, and fulfill yourself through your relationships, your career and so forth. But it is never enough. Even if you have money, a beautiful partner and wonderful times, your longing will be even stronger than ever because it can only be satisfied by having a greater purpose in life.
Therefore, God’s first emphasis is to unburden you. God does not want to deprive you of anything that is truly beneficial for your happiness. This you must learn through experience because our reassurance will not be enough. Until you are unburdened, you will be asking God to increase your burden and not lessen it.
As you seek for greater purpose, often as the result of personal failure, then something else can be given to you because you are laying down your shields. That is love. If you are terribly burdened, how can you be loving? You are attempting to control life to assure that your survival and happiness will be guaranteed. You are trying to determine that people will respond to you in a predictable manner. You are often trying to get results that are in conflict with one another. It is extremely difficult, and it need not be so.
The most loving kindness given to one who is burdened is to share their burden, but they must give away their burden for it to be shared. If you say, “Jesus will carry my burden for me,” you must give it to Jesus, and what he does with it you cannot control. Who knows? He might give it away to someone else. He cannot carry everyone’s burden, but it is not your burden anymore.
When you are unburdened to some degree, God can give you a new responsibility and that is the meaning of higher purpose: a greater responsibility. By responsibility, We mean your ability to respond to God in your life truthfully, honestly and effectively, without deception or distortion. That is your responsibility. Responsibility is higher purpose. Now you are the recipient and the giver of something greater. It is a power and a force. It is your Knowledge, and We shall also call it your love. Then you will want to unburden others because that is the natural extension of what you have received.
God always gives to givers because they naturally amplify the gift. God also gives to takers, but they do not experience the gift. What God gives to takers is an opportunity to give. What takers need to experience is the need to give because that is what will redeem them. When they become givers naturally, then the whole process of giving and receiving can truly begin.
Your giving must be determined by a Greater Force within you. People have very strong ideas on what should be given, how it should be given, what the result must look like, who should receive it, how they should receive it, what they should do with it and so forth. It is very hard to give with all these requirements!
Therefore, let us separate love from sentimentality. Let us separate love from trying to make happy appearances. If you go around smiling at everyone, you will be disgusting, and you will not understand why people do not want to be around you. But if something is happening in your life that is great and inexplicable and you are as much in amazement about it as anyone else, then you will influence and affect everyone you come in contact with. This will not be born of your ambition or personal needs. It is something that is happening in your life.
When students develop in Knowledge, either in this preparation or in another, they have an opportunity to experience relationship in a very direct manner. They can become an intermediary. An intermediary is one who translates Knowledge from one level to another and demonstrates that you can be an intermediary between God and the world.
At a higher level, God needs Inner Teachers to be intermediaries because that is the only way that God can contact the personal side of your mind. God has no personal side, and so God does not relate to the personal side of human beings. Making God a person is pathetic because an omnipotent Presence cannot be a personality. They are mutually exclusive. God is a Presence and a Force, the true attraction in all of life. God speaks to you through your Inner Teachers because they are the intermediaries at this level of existence. Indeed, God speaks to you through intermediaries. Do you know why this is so? Do you know why you cannot just go to God directly? Many people ask, “Well, why can’t I just go to God directly?”
It is because God wants to join you with others. God’s Plan is a Plan of rejoining of relationships in their true function and capacity. God’s purpose here is to unburden you and to prepare you for true relationship because you will not be able to do anything in life without true relationship. You will not be able to be a bringer of grace without relationship because grace is a product of relationship.
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