Dear Single Mother,
The life that you have chosen is not an easy one. For whatever reason, you are in the position of caring for your child alone. Perhaps the biological father passed away. Perhaps he took off and left you. Perhaps he is still in the child’s life on a part-time basis.
Being a single mom is a huge responsibility. You must care for the child’s physical, spiritual, and emotional well-being. You must put the needs of your child above your own desires, and the safety of your child must be given priority status.
Responsibility takes many forms when you are a single mother. One of the biggest responsibilities is to be careful about who you bring into your child’s life. There have been an alarming number of assaults, sexual assaults, and murders on children recently, all committed by the boyfriends of these children's mothers. Sadly, when these incidents occurred, many of these children were left alone with the boyfriend while the mother was not around. For some reason, the mother entrusted her child to the boyfriend while she was working or otherwise engaged.
Perhaps you think it is good for your boyfriend to be in your child’s life as a male role model. That depends on what kind of role model your boyfriend actually is. This begs the following questions be asked: Why would you entrust your child’s well-being to your boyfriend? Do you really know him that well? Have you done a background check on him? How long have you known him? What is his past relationship history? How do your children act around him? Does he abuse drugs or alcohol? Is he mentally stable? The list of questions could go on and on.
Perhaps you think asking such questions make you over-protective. Tell that to the mothers whose children have been harmed or murdered by their boyfriends. Tell this to NFL Minnesota Viking player, Adrian Peterson, whose 2 year old son died from head injuries he received during an aggravated assault at the hands of his mother’s boyfriend. It is better to be over-protective with a living breathing child in your arms than to be casual and lose your child.
Also, you need to realize that your boyfriend does not have the same emotional bond with your child that you do. This fact, in and of itself, could make it easier for him to lose control and hurt your child.
Look at your child, your most precious possession. Is any boyfriend worth losing your child over?