When we are treading water as fast as we can and knowing the effort is not going to be enough, but still trying to save the goal, this is what a caregiver feels, sees every day. Some may wonder why the analogy? The truth is even in families it is very difficult for other members or friends to see what is really happening. The primary caregiver needs support at each junction of the road. When we do not agree or feel the primary is too close to see, we need to take a slow, gentle approach. This may seem strange when standing in the middle of a medical crisis and the answer is necessary, right now! The truth is this calm, measured approach is what medical professionals do every day of the year.
What the caregiver may already know (and we may not) is there is always time to think! Weigh the options or ask the questions which will provide for us to make an 'informed consent'. This is the most important two words when approaching a health care situation. And it is very possible the caregiver is weighing the scales of the person’s desires and the caregiver’s insight of those desires.
The crux of this is if the Primary Caregiver, make sure we keep up to speed on not only the developments but also on the desires of the person. If not on top of the Mt. Everest, let the caregiver do their job and back them 100%. If there is some concern for the objectives of the caregiver, address those when they come up, don’t wait and be sure you are comfortable with the answers. These answers may not be changeable in 24 hours, however there is a reason the decision maker is in place and sometimes we must bow to immediate knowledge and wishes. http://www.seniorsolutions-stl.com Go to Caregiver’s Creed