If you want to affair proof your marriage, you need to focus on more than your looks. Whereas there is nothing wrong with being attractive and taking good care of yourself, good looks will not keep your partner from straying. A recent study shows that most men who stray do so because they are lacking emotional intimacy with their partner. They are lacking someone who will truly listen to them. The study also shows that the majority of cheaters cheat with people who are less attractive and less interesting than their spouses.
Here are 5 ways to increase the emotional intimacy with your spouse:
-Spend at least 15 minutes every single day where you focus entirely on your relationship. Have a cup of tea together and talk about your day. Talk about your hopes and dreams.
-Be vulnerable. Being vulnerable is important because it is that raw place inside where you are truly yourself. Your vulnerability exposes you to the risk of being hurt, but it also exposes you to the chance of joy.
-Pray together. Many couples who pray will tell you that this is a very important part of their relationship. It instills hope into the relationship and opens your heart to endless possibilities.
-Laugh together. Laughter truly is healing. When you laugh together, anger and stress disappear. Good feelings are left behind, and with those good feelings come a tender regard for your partner.
-Listen to your spouse. Really listen. Listen with more than your ears. Listen with your heart. Very often what is said has a lot that is not being said lying beneath the surface. Help your partner feel comfortable enough to share with you by being an active listener.
-Respect your spouse. A little respect goes a very long way. A lot of respect goes even further.
-Be the kind of spouse that you want to have. If you feel that your spouse is lacking, look into the mirror. Are you being the kind of spouse you would like your spouse to be? Change starts with you!