Looking at the track record… Dread or Delight? Mother’s Days’ disasters are pretty routine. Forgot? Over spent @ the last second? 3 hour restaurant wait… Some have NO model of motherhood they can point to, or rejoice in… Not to mention the same ole’, same ole’ last second reprieve…. ` Mother’s Day can produce a frenzy, or a day full of memories…
Knowing what mom wants is ½ the battle… When asked, frequently the response is “Never mind about flowers or candy… no need to make a BIG deal…”. It is a BIG deal! Ignore the humility, Moms deserve a salute. A wise man once said “What we value, we celebrate”. If we can’t plan a hoopla for mom, what are we saying? Live with NO regrets!
So what’s a person to do to have the flawless Mother’s Day?
1)PLAN- Drop everything, & just DO IT! Flowers ordered? Still can get with a day’s notice! Candy @ the ready? How about the lunch reservation? Forgot, take a radical step—do a lunch or dinner a day ahead, might get bonus points! Spend 15 minutes NOW and you won’t regret it.
2)Missed #1, more precious than any gift is TIME… your mom wants to see you, talk to you, spend time with you! Cincinnati has vast options to make the day distinctive: Krohn’s Butterfly Show; Coney Island’s Appalachian Fest; for that Pet Lover-Petfest @ Duke Energy Convention Center; unique features at area museums-Cincinnati Art, Contemporary Art, Taft, Natural History, Freedom Center, …; for the sports lover=take in a Reds Game; for the active= Rock Climbing, King’s Island, Dance Lessons …. Or CALL!
3)FOOD tastes range, yet so do the options… Often in the bible, scholars have said if one was to take out the meals and the mountains-only 10% remains. A meal provides a great bonding opportunity. A Downtown Abbey Tea is being offered at Heritage Tastings, special Mother’s Day buffets abound, … do a quick online search. Home preparation is always a good option, assuming that the receiving mom doesn’t mind swallowing egg shells or other strange concoctions? It’s not about 5 courses, it’s appreciating what she does daily (that appears to happen without effort). So NO excuses, PB&J is fine!
4)Even if your mother is no longer alive, celebrating her LEGACY (or the model of motherhood) can warm the harshest hearts…. Rejoice in what motherhood is and can be (find historic models, or others from church, school, work… ). Despite circumstances, dysfunction (isn’t everything blamed on mom?), control, drama, abuse, or how horrible a biological mother you may have.. LIFE is still owed to her existence-Express Gratitude. Featuring models of motherhood for the next generation establishes family and parenting as a core value. Reinforce the good, or Break the cycle!
5)Fighting with siblings? Disagreements? For dozens of kids and adults, it’s another reminder of the parent that is M.I.A., or of a long standing controversy. FORGIVE (notice didn’t say forget)! Forgiveness is not about letting the injuring party off the hook, it’s all about giving up the burden of grudge and malice. It’s a heavy load that will take hours, days, months and years off your life… a family divided will soon fall. A welcome present for mom is PEACE in the family!
6)Be a FAN! Look at football, basketball, baseball,…. People paint their faces, make posters, get gear, … is the same effort being used to express your love for mom? It’s not a dozen roses and done… get creative: post signs in the front yard; decorate her car with soap comments; put on a temporary tattoo expressing your love; make a congratulatory speech at the family gathering; … no limits?
7)Express FAITH! Hate church? Go to a different church? Different spiritual leaning? Compromise on this Sunday to honor mom. One doesn’t have to embrace something wholeheartedly, to gain an aspect out of it. Go into it with optimism (if only honor and respect for mom), not with a begrudging attitude. All services can have a positive impact, if only an idea spurning a drive for personal improvement.
We may NOT be a mom, but we all have a mom. We can all honor women. Some of the most beautiful scripture describes the ideal women (business, family, compassionate, kind, ….) in Proverbs 31:29-31:
“Her children respect and bless her;
her husband joins in with words of praise:
“Many women have done wonderful things, but you’ve outclassed them all!”
Charm can mislead and beauty soon fades.
The woman to be admired and praised is the woman who lives in the Fear-of-GOD.
Give her everything she deserves! Festoon her life with praises!”