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7 Dead Give-a-way Signs that You Are the "Jump Off"

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So, you have been “dating” this guy for quite some time and you are really starting to develop feelings for him. You are ready to take things to the next level but you are not quite sure how he feels. You finally muster up the courage to ask him just exactly where you stand with him and the relationship. His answer…those dreadful words no woman ever wants to hear; “I’m not ready for a relationship,” “I’m just having fun right now,” or the all time favorite, “it’s not you, it’s me.” Caught off guard, you can’t believe your ears because after all in your mind you have been spending “a lot” of time together…or have you? It’s time for you to assess your situation and realize that you were just a jump off. As hard as it may be to face the fact that you’ve been played, it is very necessary so you don’t find yourself in the same position again. Identifying the telltale signs will help to keep you from making the same mistake.

Below are 7 dead giveaway signs that you are just a jump off. Warning: you may experience one or all of these signs at any given time.

1. The 2:00 a.m. phone call. It’s 2:00 in the morning and your phone rings. Although your halfway asleep, you answer the phone only to hear a voice on the other end asking if he can stop by. Anxiously you agree because after all, he called you instead of someone else. So of course that must mean he’s so into you, right. Wrong! Nevertheless, you immediately jump out of the bed and freshen up as you await for your company to arrive……at 2:00 a.m.

2. His friends don’t know you exist. Despite the fact he’s always hanging out with his friends, you’ve never met them nor does he ever invite you to go. When a guy is truly into you, he doesn’t hesitate to show you off to his friends. He’s so proud to have you on his arm and in his life that he does not waste any time bragging on you.

3. No happy holidays. Your favorite holiday is approaching and you’re making plans as you eagerly anticipate spending some time together. However, it never fails that he comes up with an excuse for why he is not available to spend the day with you. Or even worse, he shows up at your house after all the festivities are over. And to make matters worse, he uses his mother, his kids or his job as an excuse.

4. He introduces you as just a friend. Whenever you’re out together and he runs into someone he knows, he introduces you {if he does at all} as just a friend. This introduction is necessary to let others know that he is not committed and still very much available to anyone who is interested.

5. No daytime dates. Whenever the two of you get together it is always at night in a low key location without high visibility. His justification…..”I want to spend some quiet and intimate alone time with you.” Although these outings are not really dates, he does just enough to show some interest to keep you hanging around just so he can “hit it and quit it” whenever he wants.

6. Affection equals sex. The only time he shows any affection is when you two are having sex. You desire more affection and attention but P.D.A. is so far off his radar that you would have better luck finding Waldo. Just try denying him sex one night and watch how quickly he and/ or the relationship disappears.

7. Limited phone access. You can never get in touch with him when you want to. Unlike a cellphone plan, his nights and weekends aren’t free and unlimited. Unreturned calls, unanswered text messages and even days may go by before you hear from him. And whenever you call, the phone goes straight to voicemail. The old “I forgot to turn my ringer back on” excuse is always his reason for not being able to contact him.

Whether we may want to admit it or not, we have all been played in love. We auditioned and got the supporting role as the jump off in someone’s relationship drama. While we can certainly say shame on them for doing us wrong, at some point it becomes shame on us for allowing ourselves to be done wrong. Once you have learned the signs of being a jump off, you have no one to thank, for your best supporting actress in a drama award, but yourself. So take a bow and exit stage left.

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