Tiger Woods did 6 things that other cheating men do.
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Tiger Woods did several things that are commonly done by many other men who are cheating on their mates.
As an infidelity expert who has been researching infidelity for more than a decade and a half, I’ve interviewed thousands of infidelity victims and cheaters – both male and female, as well as hundreds of experts in the field ( marriage and family counselors, divorce attorneys, private investigators, therapists, etc.). in the past 16 years.
Two years after I started interviewing, I reached the 3000 mark, so I stopped counting, but never stopped interviewing. Sixteen years hence, I would guess that I’ve probably interviewed somewhere between 8000 and 10,000 people – maybe more.
Cheating Men Say and Do Similar Things
I've found that even though each cheating man is an individual, and the circumstances surrounding his infidelity may vary, there are some things that most cheating men have in common.
Over the years, I’ve found that many cheaters say and so the same things.
In monitoring media reports of the Tiger Woods sex scandal, I’ve noticed similarities in several things Tiger and other cheating men have said and done.
Some of these similarities aew listed below.
What Tiger Woods and Other Cheating Men Have Done
1. Engage in unprotected sex.
At least two of Tiger Woods’ alleged mistresses have said that Tiger did not bother to use a condom. You’d think that a cheating husband would avoid jeopardizing his wife’s health by exposing her to HIV/AIDS and other sexually-transmitted diseases. But that’s not always the case.
In addition, by engaging in unprotected sex, the cheater also makes himself, his family, and his mistress vulnerable to an unwanted, or unexpected pregnancy and all the complications that can bring. Just look at John Edwards.
2. Take their mistress to the marital home when the wife is away.
One of Tiger Wood’s mistresses said Tiger regularly took her to his home where they had sex in a room filled with his wedding pictures.
In my opinion, it’s the height of disrespect for a man to have sex with his mistress in his marital bed. But this is something many cheating men do. It gives them a real adrenalin rush, and involves a certain amount of risk for cheaters who like living on the edge.
Many devious mistresses view this as an opportunity to shake things up in their lover’s lives by deliberately leaving behind “souvenirs” (stray hairs, panties, bras, earrings, lipstick or other cosmetics) for his wife to find.
3. Tell his mistress he is unhappy in his marriage.
Several of Tiger’s alleged mistresses say that he made disparaging statements about his marriage – that he was unhappy in his marriage, that he married only for appearances.
This is a common lie that cheating men tell their mistresses because they think it’s what the mistress wants to hear. Cheating men continue to use this age-old line, because mistresses fall for it every time.
4. Go from one mistress to another until he gets finally caught.
Most cheating husbands continue to have affairs, as long as they don’t have a close call, or actually get caught.
The longer a cheater gets away with his cheating, the more confident he becomes.
That’s why it’s so important for a wife to be able to spot the signs of infidelity early on, and speak up as soon as she has proof. Ignoring his affair won’t make it go away. It only makes the situation worse.
5. Use their friends to facilitate their affairs.
Tiger Woods’ childhood friend is reported to have arranged the airfare and hotel accommodations for Rachel Uchitel to meet Tiger in Australia.
Tiger’s bodyguards are also reported to have approached attractive women in Tiger’s behalf.
Many cheating men use their friends to cover for them, or otherwise aid and abet their affairs. A male friend may allow the cheater to use his home or apartment for a tryst, or lie to the cheater’s wife about where he is.
This is especially true if the cheating man’s friends are cheaters, too.
6. Let their desire for sex overrule their common sense.
You would think that an intelligent man would consider the consequences of his cheating, and not bother to have an extramarital affair. It appears that Tiger Woods failed to think about the risks he was taking, or give consideration to all that he stood to lose, should his infidelity be exposed.
One of Tiger’s alleged mistresses said they even had sex in a church parking lot. Cheaters do all sorts of foolish things in the pursuit of sex get involved with women who have ulterior motives without even bothering to do a background check, leave electronic or digital trails behind or tangible evidence where it can be found.
These are just a few of the things Tiger Woods said or did, that other cheating men have also said and done.
*** © copyright 2009 Ruth Houston
Ruth Houston is a New York-based infidelity expert who is frequently called on by the media to comment on infidelity issues in the news. She is the author of Is He Cheating on You? - 829 Telltale Signs, the founder of InfidelityAdvice.com and publishes the Infidelity News and Views blog.
For more information about cheating husbands, signs of infidelity, and extramarital affairs, see:
New Details About Tiger Woods Secret Love Life Reveal He May Be Addicted to Sex
14 Reasons Why Tiger Woods and Other Rich and Famous Men Cheat
How to Catch a Cheating Husband
Is He Cheating? – Is She Cheating? – 21 Ways You Can Tell (free tip sheet)
Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs (softcover book) (e-book version)
When Should You Hire a Private Investigator to Check Out a Cheating Mate?
What Should I Do If I Think He or She Is Cheating on Me?
Why the Wife is Still the Last to Know
3 Things a Wife Stands to Lose by Being the Last to Know
Infidelity Resources to Help You Catch a Cheating Mate
Free Infidelity Tip Sheets and Special Reports
Comments
Your comment "In addition, by engaging in unprotected sex, the cheater also makes himself, his family, and his mistress vulnerable to an unwanted, or unexpected pregnancy and all the complications that can bring. Just look at John Edwards." misses the mark.
No such pregnancy is unexpected by anyone who understands the basics of reproduction. The pregnancy and resulting child is unwanted and unplanned by the man but is planned by the gold digger and wanted by her for the payoffs the kid will provide.
The cheaters wife and legitimate children pay the highest price. The unwanted illegitimate child also pays due to the father's stupidity and the mother's deviousness.
"These are just a few of the things Tiger Woods said or did, that other cheating men have also said and done."
Wrong. These are things that OTHERS have said Tiger said or did. Does anyone of these women have proof? Or are they just throwing their hat into the ring for their 15 minutes of fame?
interesting article! Sent you some link love today. xo
Ok! so he cheated. But why is he being judged alone? what about all the women he was with? Now that his affair has been caught, there r so many of them who r coming up with stories to hog the limelight. One of them even went to the extent of saying that she wanted to tell his wife how he was cheating on her. But has anyone asked these ladies that if he was at fault, why did they encourage him? R they not equal partners in the crime?
Good article, and so true. Almost all cheating men do those things. The one about having sex in his own home is the one that really gets to me. Not that doing it anywhere else is any better, but that is like truly slapping your wife in the face. Also, to be the other women having sex while photos of him and his wife are staring at you can't be exactly comfortable.
Yay, Ruth in UsWeekly.com! :)
AWESOME ARTICLE.
I’m fielding submissions for a tongue-in-cheek relationships website, featuring anonymous anecdotes from women on sex, dating and relationships — and I want you to participate!
Every woman has at least one hilarious, jaw-dropping or cringe-worthy anecdote to share. Think of yours and submit it by January 31st. I’m sure you have a good one!
Submission Guidelines
The best anecdotes focus on YOU. For example, if your boyfriend cheated and you pulled an Elin Nordegren (of Tiger Woods fame), your anecdote should build up to the shocking moment you struck his SUV with a 9-iron. In other words, highlight what you did that was shocking, funny, emotional, embarrassing, etc. — whether you regret it or would gladly do it again. There are no taboo subjects. Feel free to express yourself.
• Detail a specific incident or encounter
• Build up to your leading moment
• Limit submissions to 250 words
it's a big deal when famous people cheat. if they were ordinary people, someone would have been shot dead by now and it's just a news blink to read about. it's not so much the cheating which happens all the time; you wouldn't want to be the one on the other end of the stick, the one who's about to be cheated on. the horrible rage that must be going through. you can almost hear the anger and obscenities three miles away.
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