As my last year in my twenties takes its course, I thought to myself all of the life lessons I have experienced, people I've met, career changes and heartbreak I endured and of course all of amazing memories created with friends and family. A lot of mistakes were made and frequent bumps in the road definitely through me for a loop. As I look back on the choices I made and outcomes of major decisions throughout my twenties, I decided to cave into the ever so popular lists of things I think would enhance your life and bad habits that need to be eliminated as you enter the most exciting time of your life.
By 30, most of your friends are probably married and have one or two kids on the way. Houses are purchased, jobs are secure and the piece to their puzzle seems to look complete. We often compare ourselves to family and friends, especially the consistent advertisement of peoples lives on social media. Whether you're at the point you want to be in life at 23, 27 or even 30, below are 5 things we should start doing as 30 approaches.
Get rid of people who suck the life out of you.
If you find yourself around people who don't appreciate you for who you really are, it's time to say goodbye. Too many people want to go along for the ride with you, then never show up when important things pop up. If you don't feel like you're the best person you can be around certain individuals and you feel as if they encourage you to make bad choices, adios amigo! Be around people that understand when you want to be alone, laugh at your mistakes and offer advice on vital life lessons.
We don't have the metabolism we once had in college. If you're like me, you have to actively workout and eat healthy the majority of the time to maintain a nice physique. Not only does it feel great to look awesome on the outside, regular exercise does wonders for stress and anxiety. Once you're on a healthy kick and find a a nice routine of healthy living that works for you, life gets better and better. You feel so good about yourself and positive energy stays with you. Now I'm not saying don't ever eat a greasy pizza or juicy cheeseburger, just reward yourself once a week and you will see those bad cravings go away.
Do what you love.
If you hate your job, quit. If you're crying and become depressed because you know you're not using your talents and skills towards a career you've wanted for as long as you can remember, start researching ways to get into it. Join networking groups, volunteer and get out there. Working that cush 9-5 job and then sulking about it outside the office won't get you anywhere but there. Of course, we can't all just quit a job that is responsible for bills and life's unexpected twists and turns, but at least work towards a goal and reach it while paying the bills. It's really all about who you know in life, so don't be afraid to ask for leads and meet new people. It sounds scary, but once you do it, you will be wondering why it took you so long to shine.
Stop looking for your soulmate.
Once your start doing the things you love, you will meet the person you're meant to be with. The Internet is bombarded with dating websites and chat rooms to connect you with your match, but the likelihood of finding and maintaining a happy, healthy relationship based on a profile is not very high. While some people have found love online, most people have said they met the one as soon as they were completely happy with themselves and their life in general.
Spend more time with Family.
We wanted nothing to do with our mom and dad during high school and maybe college, but they're the reason you're reading this right now and are responsible for the awesome creation of you. They are also getting older and you never know when the time comes that they are no longer here. It's a pretty unique bond to have as you get older and the conversations and stories feel as if you're talking to your best friend. They love you for you and you might regret not having any relationship with them when you reach 60.
If you're approaching 30 like me, it might feel a bit scary and overwhelming at the same time. Take a breathe and know where you are at now is simply a part of God's plan and if you practice these simple 5 things, you'll be on your way to a happier