When people spend five days a week, sometimes more, together each person will begin to manifest specific personas. A leader will emerge, along with the clown and a sweetheart. Although most groups have more personas, we are only concerned with the “Office Sweetheart”.
The office sweetheart is the one that brightens everyone’s day simply by coming to work. She is left in charge when the boss is away. She is not considered a threat because she is loyal to her boss and the company. Most people in the office and higher ups will like her because she is confident and comfortable with herself.
There was a time when women felt they needed to be the office b-word to get ahead. Conversely, ‘you catch more flies with honey than you do with vinegar’. To establish yourself, as the office sweetheart, start early by integrating these five simple behaviours into your persona; remember to always smile, always say nice things, never gossip, do the little things, and call people by their real name.
Smile, smile, smile
Liken to the real estate agent’s mantra; location, location, location the office sweetheart smiles in all appropriate situations. She has the kind of smile that clients can hear on the phone. It’s not a fake smile, it’s a genuine happy to see you smile. Even the most stone cold client cannot help but turn the corners of their mouth upon seeing you.
Always have something nice to say
It seems simple enough yet complimenting people, for the most part, is awkward. If we are not normally in the habit of saying nice things to people than it can come off as phoney. Chose something simple to notice and keep your tone genuine and you will accomplish your objective.
Never, ever gossip
Gossiping about other people is never a good idea. If you are considered trustworthy you might find that people feel comfortable venting to you. It is your responsibility to recognize the difference between venting and vindictiveness. Passing along gossip is just as bad as starting the rumor yourself.
Do the little things
Like any relationship, doing the little things makes the biggest impact. Bring coffee and donuts once a week, remember people’s birthdays by bringing them in a cupcake or ask people about their day or kids demonstrates your interest in other people. It is the little things that ensure loyalty. Loyalty is important should you have competition for the next promotion.
Call people by their real name
It is a known fact, people like to hear their name. Most people do not like to be called “hun”, “sweety” or “babe”. There are a few people who do not mind, but why take the chance? Those who are offended perceive these nicknames as an intentional slight from an insecure person.
Being the office sweetheart, as discussed, is being that person who is a consummate professional both personally and professionally. Your actions will be noticed and remembered just as you noticed and remembered others. We have all heard the cliché, “What goes around comes around”. If that’s the case then would not you rather have sweetheart karma instead of b-word karma?