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5 pieces of advice for college freshmen

College freshmen
College freshmen

My daughter is beginning her college career in a few days. I jokingly told her that my father graduated from the college of hard knocks. Actually, he never graduated from grade school, but he learned a lot of lessons the hard way. Hopefully, my daughter will not have to learn by making mistakes and will learn by listening to my parting advice and the advice of others. But I’m being hypocritical in wishing this because that’s my first piece of advice.
1. Don’t feel bad about mistakes and failures because you can learn from them and eventually succeed. Thomas Edison failed 99 times before he succeeding in lighting a light bulb. Now his invention is lighting up the planet. The only person who is a failure is the one who doesn’t keep trying.
2. Ask for help. Don’t feel you have to do it all yourself or that you would be bothering others if you asked them to help you. Most people love to freely help, and the ones who don’t you probably shouldn’t ask. Form a support group and help each other. Choose friends carefully and avoid negative people. They’re the real vampires.
3. Find balance between work and rest/recreation and your heart and head. Being a hermit and bookworm may feed your mind but starve your body and emotions. Plan your day with balance in mind by scheduling time for exercise, rest, recreation, and socialization. Try to dovetail activities like studying or watching TV while on a treadmill or going for a walk or swim with friends.
4. Do what you love. Don’t major in something because you’ll make a lot of money with it or because an advisor or other “expert” told you it’s what you should do. Only you know deep in your heart what you desire to do. To sire is to give life to something. The mind decides to do something, and, more often than not, it’s not what the heart desires. To cide is to take life away. Don't kill your dream. What would you do if money were no concern. What would you do for free? The answer is your purpose. It’s God’s gift to you and your gift to the world.
5. Give thanks. One of the most powerful qualities you can develop is gratitude. The more grateful you are for what you have, the more the universe will respond by giving you more things to be grateful for. Say thanks for what you have and you will keep it. Say thanks in advance for what you desire and you will receive it. This is a fundamental law of attraction. Give thanks for the lessons you have learned from your mistakes, the friends who help you, the balance in your life, and the purpose you are fulfilling.