Article: 5 Infertility Faux Pas to avoid
Infertility is now a very commonly experienced situation. It’s defined as a lack of term pregnancy after 12 months of unprotected intercourse, and it’s estimated that about 1 in 8 people will experience it. And the numbers seem to be on the rise. Infertility is a devastating situation to be in, and friends and family of sufferers often exacerbate it, unknowingly. Here are 5 infertility faux pas to avoid.
1. Complaining about your children. There are many men and women that would like to have their own children so badly, and yet are experiencing great difficulty in getting pregnant. Complaining about how much work children are is not going to make them feel any better. Neither will complaining about the terrible twos, or preteen drama. Take a page from the book of positivity and be thankful for what is positive in life, instead of focusing on the negative, which benefits no one. Complaining does not make anyone feel better about the situation.
2. Saying they have more time for Date Night. Yes, childless couples have more time and find it easier to go out on a date together. However, sometimes it’s very difficult to forget the fact that there are, in fact, only two at the table. These couples are very aware that it is more difficult to have a date with children in the picture. And, they still want those children!
3. Did you hear about…. Couples suffering from infertility will seek treatment information when they are ready. If you would like to offer advice, please ask if there is any interest first. Often couples suffering from infertility are some of the most well read patients. They are very busy pursuing research and options. So, most likely, yes, they have already heard about that this and that. It is most helpful to ask before offering advice, as these couples typically need a sympathetic ear, not more advice.
4. Offering your children. Like that comedian, who said, “Take my wife… please!” that joke often will fall flat. Couples suffering from infertility are perfectly aware that parenting is not necessarily an easy task, and that there are some challenges that come with parenting and child-rearing. However, most parents would never give up their children for anything in the world. And likewise, couples suffering from infertility would likely do anything to have that baby they’ve been dreaming of. Please keep the jokes to yourself. They probably will not be received well.
5. Not leaving enough space. Couples with infertility need some space to open up about their struggles. Some couples do not care to discuss their situation. That is fine, too. Each person must deal with the situation in a manner that helps their individual self the most. Sometimes that means keeping it a tight secret. Sometimes it means telling a few people. Sometimes it means talking to whomever will listen. Please don’t pry, but leave the door open for a listening. Those suffering from infertility are often very much suffering and in most need of a sympathetic ear.
One of the most important things that can be offered for those suffering from infertility is a sympathetic ear and a non-judemental standpoint. Believe it or not, these can be hard to come by, and any display of either is typically very well recieved.