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5 herbs for women over 40 to stock a sex-friendly pantry

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I am a foodie and love to prepare made from scratch meals for my husband, family and friends (as long as someone helps with clean up, I'm a happy cook). Great dishes nourish our bodies, minds and souls...and if prepared with loving intention, can fuel carnal joy.

As a coach for women over 40, I spend a lot of time helping women reframe their relationships to their bodies, sensuality and love. This often means taking a look at food and eating and experiencing the sensuality in every tasty morsel.

There's a saying that goes: Never trust someone who doesn't eat. They're probably lousy in bed! Just look to the people and places with a reputation for being passionate lovers (Italy is my favorite!), and chances are their tables are laden with delectable offerings. Aphrodisiacs galore, in fact!

Here's my quick take on aphrodisiacs. They can be classified into two categories. They either look like certain body parts and therefore inspire erotic thoughts or they feed specific organs and improve overall health to enhance erotic deeds

When it comes to the latter, there are two organs we most want to feed: the heart and the brain. The latter is our primary sex organ, and it needs lots of healthy fats (think Omega 3) to cook up our fantasies and function at top form.

What’s interesting to note is that our heart sends more signals to the brain than the other way around. While science figures the meaning of that out, the rest of us can concur that when it comes to making love, a healthy heart is key.

In no particular order, here are 5 herbs & spices to stock in your sex-friendly pantry that may be especially valuable to women over 40 who want to maintain vitality, passion and health.

Saffron

Saffron is popular in cuisine from the Mediterranean coast and throughout the Middle East and Asia. Cleopatra is said to have bathed in saffron scented waters before making love. Even the Bible describes saffron’s seductiveness in the Song of Solomon:

“Your lips drop sweetness like honeycomb, my bride, syrup and milk are under your tongue, and your dress had the scent of Lebanon. Your cheeks are an orchard of pomegranates, an orchard full of rare fruits, spikenard and saffron, sweet cane and cinnamon.”

It has been suggested that part of saffron’s magical property is thought to be its enhancement of “lust” via certain neurotransmitters that stimulate libido or erogenous zones. Saffron may also lower blood pleasure and stimulate respiration.

Chili Pepper

No lips are left unaffected by this spice’s potent kiss. Rumor has it that Montezuma spiced his daily chocolate potion with chili before visiting his concubines, and to this day chili has a hot reputation. Chili may enhance arousal by helping to release endorphins, increasing the heart rate and creating a flush on the skin that mimics arousal signals.

Mint

This breath freshener makes kissing that much sweeter and it’s reputation goes way back. Both the ancient Greeks and Roman’s are said to have made generous use of this lush, green plant.

As a tea, it’s calming properties are an excellent way to wrap up a delicious meal. Mint also contains vitamins such as A and C and magnesium, calcium and potassium, important nutrients for sexual health.

Ginger

This root’s spicy, tangy hot scent aids digestion and circulation, always important for good health and performance. Subtly sensitizing our erogenous zones, ginger’s not so subtle shape earns the moniker by form as well.

Turmeric

Turmeric is believed to be an anti-inflammatory agent that may help lower cholesterol, reduce gas and bloating and even certain cancers (including breast). It's a bright yellow/orange spice that adds a burst of color to many dishes and in some parts of the world, is prepared as a tea.

Remember, this information is just the tip of the iceberg and is meant to compliment your wellness efforts. In no way is this a substitute for medical care, treatment or intervention. If you suspect a serious health concern, be sure to visit your doctor or caregiver.

Finally, I've put together a free Sexy by Nature Guide for women over 40. It includes:

  • Report: 16 supplements for a woman's long term vitality
  • Guide: Tasty herbs & spices to stock in your sex-friendly pantry
  • Ritual: 5 mindfulness practices to restore passion & vitality
  • Support: Inspirations, sensual living tips & more...

Click here to get your FREE Sexy by Nature Guide.

Because you're smart, spirited and sensational, and your love life should be too.

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