“The purpose of our lives is to be happy.” As said by the immortal words of the Dalai Lama. Happiness is what drives each person every day. Contrary to popular belief, people want to be happy. Every action we do is for the reaping of satisfaction. However, what we think should make us happy often is wrong. For example, a person will work a dead end job, which does not interest them; to make money that they think will make them happy. The truth is money is not the way to happiness. If that were the case, there wouldn’t be millionaires that use cocaine. Think about it. Using the logic of money equating happiness, there would be no reason for a millionaire to alternate their reality. Happiness comes from within.
Using these five easy tips, you will be guided towards happiness.
1. Be grateful.
There are numerous studies that show a correlation between happiness and gratitude. It is believed that the more grateful you are, the happier you are. An online video by the company SoulPancake has a series titled The Science of Happiness. Of the series is a video titled An Experiment in Gratitude. The experiment was conducted by a group of volunteers that were asked to take a questionnaire to rate their current level on happiness. Moments later they were asked to write about the person that has inspired and influenced them in their life. After the letter was completed the volunteers were surprised to find out they had to call the person in their letter. In this video, the experimenters discover that expressing your gratitude will make you a happier person. To watch this video please click here.
2. Don’t set benchmarks.
The mindset of most people is “Once I ____ then I will be happy.” This is an easy set up for failure. You should be happy in each step of the way in your journey. By setting a benchmark you’re limiting yourself. Most people hardly reach their goals, or their goals change. Using benchmark happiness is allowing you to stay in the unhappy mindset. This will lead to blaming your unhappiness on others and starts a cycle you do not want to begin.
3. Have a holistic view of happiness.
In the words of Robert Tew “Respect yourself enough to walk away from anything that no longer serves you, grows you or makes you happy.” You cannot expect to have a positive lifestyle when surrounded by negativity. In addition to your surroundings, your thoughts have a huge impact on your happiness. The best example of a holistic view of happiness is in a book titled As a Man Thinkth by James Allen. The book focuses on the power of the mind when it comes to happiness, reaching goals, building character and losing fear.
4. Remember happiness is a choice.
A Youtube user by the name of Shay Carl is often seen as a happy, positive and loving person. Many of his viewers, young and old, look up to him and use his words of wisdom. Shay’s most famous quote is “Happiness is a choice.” He illustrates that you have the choice to be happy in every moment. That choice is solely up to you. The next time you’re in a moment of unhappiness remember that the emotion you are feeling is what you allow. You hardly benefit from sadness or anger. Choose happiness.
5. Fake it until you make it.
When worse comes to worse and you honestly don’t feel happy, fake it. Fake it until you are happy. It’s not that hard. A simple smile can release chemicals throughout your body and into your brain that are used when experiencing true happiness. Do things that you see happy people doing. It could be a walk in the park, reading a book or going to the beach. Just fake it and maybe you’ll start to feel it.
Happiness can be hard to have. Some people have chemical, emotion and psychological disorders that allow them to be unhappy. If this is the case, understand that everyone deserves to be happy. Take steps to assist yourself or others to get what they deserve.
Please continue to reference this article when you need to be reminded how to maintain your happiness.