Most find it abnormal if someone confesses to have not engaged in sexual activity by the time they are 30, yet at 38 years-old, Haitian-Bahamian musician Mr. J has no problem being a (nearly) 40 year-old virgin. In fact, he’s known locally as the singer with the abstinence ‘til marriage agenda.
Sure, he's no Steve Carell from The 40 Year-Old Virgin, but Gesner 'Mr. J' Dalmon has his own story to tell.
“People straight up assume that I’m lying,” he said. “Bottom line, I am a virgin because of my faith. When I was fourteen, I made a promise to God that I would remain pure until I consummated my marriage. Don’t believe for one minute that it is easy because when you combine women who catch your attention with friends constantly joking and pressuring you, you can fall in. One thing I’ve learned about guys, especially teenagers, is those who talk about getting it most are the ones who get it least or have yet to get it at all. I try to live my life as close as possible to the examples given in the Bible and the principles of God is why I am abstinent.”
Mr. J’s I’m A Virgin Valentine’s Day release date is no coincidence and the single recorded with Sagini Inc (Bahamas) is available on CDBaby.
The video itself follows Mr. J, in being pressured to up the ante in his fictional relationship by his girlfriend even though it cuts away to him hoping to save himself until marriage. The artist, who is known locally on the reggae circuit, is also a motivational speaker who plans to take his campaign of abstinence into schools, churches and television. He further revealed that he is working on a book dealing with the subject.
“There is a radio station in The Bahamas that hasn’t played it,” he admits. “There were a lot of excuses as to why they didn’t play it and none of it was related to technical or engineering aspects of the song. I would have assumed that they would have found a song promoting abstinence okay but they claimed it sounded too much like Madonna’s Like A Virgin which is completely untrue for the lyrics, harmony and genre. I just think the song’s subject is a tough sell.”
And in case you're wondering if he will consider dating or marrying a woman who is not a virgin...
“That’s something I have gone to God with,” said Mr. J. “I have had encounters where women have been willing to wait, women have wondered if I was gay because I didn’t get down and dirty with them and where women were just plain fast and forward. I’ve prayed about the kind of woman I want to be my wife and when that time comes it will come but I will not judge her if she was sexually active before she met me. That would have been her choice. My choice is something that I have to deal with and have to answer to God with on my own.”
Mr. J's I’m A Virgin can be viewed on his Youtube channel www.youtube.com/user/mrjreggae1.