The rock group R.E.M once touted in their lyrics about the enormity of life. In their song 'Losing my Religion', they sing, "Oh life, it's bigger, It's bigger than you, And you are not me." In the grand scheme of things life is an enormous undertaking. To make the journey requires a lot chutzpah, both good and bad. Each day decisions are made some of which propel us forward in life others hold us back because we are consumed by our decisions and over burden ourselves with such questions as Why didn't I, What if and Why me?.
Why didn't I questions draw us into looking at life as a bunch of wrong turns and missed exits. Somewhere along the road had only taken this turn in the road the life lived would have been different and so much better than the life were living is right now.
The trouble with why didn't I thinking is there is no guarantees in life no matter which path we take. Life is life and it is best lived looking forward rather than looking back. The Bible says in Isaiah 43:18-19 ESV, “Remember not the former things, nor consider the things of old. Behold, I am doing a new thing; now it springs forth, do you not perceive it? I will make a way in the wilderness and rivers in the desert."
What if questions are close cousins to Why didn't I questions. These kind of questions not only make us second guess ourselves in every decision we've ever made but also cast an atmosphere of doubt over being able to make the correct decisions going forward in life. God has the same answer for these types of questions as He did for the Why didn't I questions, "Trust me and don't look back."
Why me, a question we have all asked ourselves at least once in life. Life is full of Why me moments the key to overcoming them is to look at them as Why not me moments which we can learn from and grow. Sure some Why me moments are going to be tougher than others but as David, Job and others in the Bible learned in the days of trouble or why me moments call on God and he will answer.
There are three other questions you can ask yourself which are much more useful than Why didn't I, What if and Why me? These questions are What can I do to improve myself, How can I grow and What's in my control to change? Each of these questions help us to see each wrong decision, each misstep as tool to help us grow and improve our lives as well as become a good witness to others as a servant of God.