I turned 31 two days ago. I must say that I’m feeling some type of way. At this age you know what you want and you don’t settle. I realize that by taking it slow, and by ultimately not taking things to a sexual level that I saved myself a lot of heartbreak in 2012.
This morning I woke up and wrote a list of some of the men who tried to pursue me in 2012. I decided to stop writing after the eleventh name. All of these men fell in different categories ironically. I’m proud to say that I did not break and allow myself to fall weak to temptation.
I was thinking recently that we live in a world where several people don’t want to experience things. Therefore, when you meet a person oftentimes they are wearing their heart on their sleeve from Day 1. As I have stated in previous articles, there are people who have relations for years only to realize that essentially the whole relationship was one big rebound.
In my generation we have a lot of people suppressing emotions. A lot of people simply do not want to cry it out and deal with the pain. Therefore, you may meet an individual who is in love with the idea of being in love with you. However, an idea is not the real deal. For this reason, it is very possible to feel like you have met your soul mate only for this person to mysteriously disappear or attempt to resurface in and out of your life. This individual simply does not have closure with a previous or existing relationship.
An unhealed heart can’t love. You can be in an environment with the perfect ambiance, but always remember that it takes two hearts to love. Sometimes you meet individuals who really understand that you are a wonderful guy or girl. However, at the same time they realize that it is not a love situation. It sucks for the individual who may be thinking that the ride is for life when the other party realizes that you are really only their solution for idleness.
You really have to get in touch with yourself and discernment. Sometimes a person dates you because it is all about the status quo. In other situations it is all about redemption. For instance, maybe in the past they have dated a lot of crappy people and they want to prove to their family that they can attract a hard working professional. Understand that a person trying to prove a point is never indicative of love. It is never about who you can attract at the end of the day, but instead solely about whom you really want to be with.
You just can’t be sold fast today on a quick elevator speech. I have met several educated men this year who have attempted to date me. However, the biggest giveaway is accessibility. Some men want what they have at home in addition to you as well. In 2013, you just have to laugh at a lot of things. For instance I meet flirtatious guys all the time and I just giggle. You think to yourself this guy is a royal mess. Ladies especially, please know what to take seriously and what to giggle about.