“You cannot expect to attract love, unless you become the embodiment of love itself, for like attracts like.”
Many people go through life without ever realizing the lack of love they show or give themselves. This lack of self-love then goes on to affect nearly every aspect of life. So, why don't we love ourselves?
Much of it just happens along the way in life. Maybe you didn’t have the best upbringing, didn’t have a lot of support, maybe had some people treat you like garbage, or worse, maybe you treat yourself like garbage. In turn, this constant beat-down over time would make it near impossible to not affect your perception on life, and most importantly, your perception of yourself and your self-worth.
We put so much time, love and effort into others, but when do we put the real effort and love towards ourselves? Without fully loving and respecting ourselves, how can we expect to have good relationships, to feel fulfilled, be happy and achieve the success in life that we want?
Think about those areas in your life thru the lens if you had absolute love and respect for yourself. You probably would feel great about who you are and certainly would not allow others to make you feel differently. You would probably take better care of yourself because that’s what people so when they love someone, they care for them! Everything in life, every aspect that you want to improve, all comes down to simply loving yourself.
Don’t get self-love and self-confidence mixed up – they are totally different. Love is a verb. It’s something you do, not just about how you feel about yourself. If you start living your life loving yourself, you will start to approach things differently.
If you need some help on where to start, here’s a list of 10 ways that you can love yourself more:
1.Say I love you to yourself! It might be weird at first, but try to do it everyday.
2.Forgive yourself. Don’t be so hard on yourself. Learn the lesson, improve and move on.
3.Forgive others. Forgiving others is not for them, it’s for you. Lift that burden off yourself, free yourself from the suffering and hate that is living inside you. Let it go.
4.Take a break and pamper yourself. Life isn’t easy, so pamper yourself. You deserve it! We all need a break sometimes. It’s not selfish, it’s necessary so you are able to live your life to serve the people you love in the best way possible (And yes, mothers, I am especially talking to you!).
5.Take care of your health and well-being. Being connected and healthy in mind, body, soul and heart is vital.
6. Do that one thing you love to do. Run, draw, teach, fish, whatever it is, do it! Better yet, turn that passion of yours into your career. When you are living and breathing your passion, you come alive, you feel fulfilled!
7.Go to church/Practice your religion. Establish a strong connection with God, or whatever or whoever you believe in. Knowing you can place all your problems, worries, doubts and fears into His hands is an AMAZING feeling. You were not born to live with all of life’s crap by yourself, so get rid of it! You do not have to try to live life and deal with it all on your own.
8.Compliment yourself. Positive self-talk only! If you catch yourself saying something negative, immediately stop and say something positive. The two most powerful words you can say are I AM. It’s what you say after it that determines your reality.
9.Spend time with positive people. Think about how you feel when you are in the presence of another person. The people who love you should uplift you and bring a smile to your face. If they don’t, spend less time with them or re-consider having them apart of your life.
10.Set a goal. Setting a goal, creating action steps and achieving it, is a wonderful feeling and a sure way to make yourself feel proud, showing you believe in yourself, your dreams and your success in life. Use the SAFE and SMART goal-setting techniques to help.