Recently on an episode of the new and very popular TV show Happy Endings, Penny’s date discovered her notepad with her first name with his last name scribbled all over the page. When her date asked what that was about, she had to explain that she was “trying out his last name.” The genius of it was his last name was Hitler…
Every woman whether they have actually written it out or said it verbally can relate to “trying out his last name.” Some women go as far as trying out not-yet-conceived children’s name with a not-even-in-a-relationship love interest’s last name. It is crazy out here.
Yet, while I do support having a vision, and a good amount of fantasy is encouraged, it is important that women not get ahead of themselves. Planning weddings, international vacations together, and imagining what your children will look like before the second date is, at the very least, premature.
While most will agree that behavior is extreme and far-fetched, it is easy for women to go beyond where they actually are in the dating process. A week or two in and a woman can already have enormous expectations of a man she is dating. He needs to call every day, texts at least 3 times a day, invite her out to his outings, so forth and so on. These expectations are often tragically transferred into undue pressure on the man to become what a woman has created him to be in her mind. These expectations, a woman’s fantasy, can have absolutely nothing to with the reality of the situation. It is sad when the innocence and fun of getting to know someone is cut short due to forcing somebody to be, or fill a void, which they were never intended… as some things only can be fixed from within yourself.
So the next time you are really feeling a guy you just met- enjoy it. Enjoy the dates, the talks, the texts and everything that comes with it for exactly face value. Not only do you avoid unnecessary stress and headache, it affords you the ability to really get to know the man. In turn, he may get the pleasure of really getting to know you and stay around for the long haul.
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